The Namesake

The dog raised his head up off the porch as the car pulled up. He would have growled, but it was too hot. Instead, he put his head back down before the dust blew into his eyes.  “The ankle-biter is here,” said the man in the rocker next to the dog.  Activity rustled inside of the house.

The car door opened and a little boy peeked his head around it.  He gazed at the wrinkled old man on the porch.  He looked like a rabid apple doll having a bad day. The boy inched back toward his car seat.  “Come on buddy. Go see your grandpa.”

The grandpa peeked his head around the front door.  He gazed at the little boy hiding behind the car door. He looked like a fat-faced munchkin.  The old man inched back toward his rocker. “Go on Pa. Go see your grandson.” said a female voice from inside.

The dog lifted his head up again.  This was a multi-generational stand-off.  The dog would’ve have been more interested in the outcome, but once again — it was too hot. He dozed back off to sleep.

The son of a son picked up his son and carried him up to the porch.  “Meet your namesake, Dad.”  The grandpa reached his hands out carefully.  “Is he breakable?”

“Did you and Mom ever have kids?” the son laughed.  The grandson looked at his grandpa with a weary eye.  A warm wind blew across the porch.

The grandpa reached out and held his grandson for the first time. The grandson looked at old wrinkled man and said, “Pa paw…”

Years melted off the old man. He clutched his grandson like he never wanted to let him go.  The son looked at his dad and said, “I named him for you, dad.  I know we weren’t talking, but I still loved you.”  The dog farted, completely ruining what was until then a tender moment.

For the first time in his 70 years, the old man was speechless.  He just held his namesake.  Whatever caused the argument with his son melted away in the late August Mississippi Delta heat.

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A man of few words

Thanks to a series of ear infections, he lost his hearing as a child. For several months, he was stone deaf — and the accompanying fluid build-up caused developmental issues in his brain.  He struggled to learn to talk. He was a man of few words.

But what he lacked in words, he more than made up for in actions. He was all heart.  He possessed a sixth sense of empathy; the ability to read other people like books. The young man listened. Observed. Watched. Soaked in other’s needs.  He didn’t talk a good game — he acted.  Others would tell you what they were going to do. He just did it.

His blue eyes twinkled.  A Shakespearean vocabulary could not express the wisdom he could with a look.  And he backed that look up actions.

He was a leader in every sense of the word.  I’ve learned from his wisdom.  I’ve learned from his example.

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The Selfish Man

The selfish man walked down the dusty road, oblivious to anyone but himself.  He didn’t see the old lady on the porch who was struggling to hang her wash. He didn’t see the child with the bloodied knee peddling his tricycle across the lawn.  He missed the pregnant lady walking her dog on the other side of the street. Birds chirped unbeknownst to him.  His mind was on himself.  No one else need to try to enter.

The selfish man lived a selfish life.  His only interest in the World was how the World affected him.  His curiosity was as stunted as the lungs of a baby of a chain smoker.  If it didn’t affect him, it didn’t exist.

The selfish man watched the destruction across the Globe on his television. He switched the channel to Jersey Shore.  The selfish man ignored his dog who wanted to be petted. There was no time for that.  The selfish man was like a waterbug, skimming across the top of the water.  There was no time to experience anything deeper.  The selfish man took no risks. He rocked no boats.

The selfish man could not read others and thought everyone loved him as much as he loved himself.  He believed in his bosses and knew he would never lose his job. He was, in his mind, too valuable.

The selfish man did not worship Anyone other than himself.  He only believed in the face he saw in the mirror.  His soul was like an empty China pitcher.  Beautiful to look at the outside but with nothing on the inside.

The selfish man lived in a house of cards he had built in his own image.  As long as he believed in himself, he would live a comfortable life.  But one day he was rocked to the core.  His house of cards came crashing down.

His bosses did not believe in him.  His wife did not either.  His friends melted away like sugar in hot tea.  His confidence in the man in the mirror failed like the Hindenburg’s fire extinguishers.  The selfish man had no one to turn to but himself. And that wasn’t enough.

The selfish man reflected on his life.  He reached out to a higher power.  Having faith in Someone or something bigger than himself gave him a new strength. The selfish man quit thinking of himself first. Instead he gave everything he had to his wife and kids. He began living Zig Ziglar’s quote, “You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.”   He quit living on the surface like the water bug and experienced the cool, clear water of life below.

The unselfish man walked down the road and saw the lady struggling to hang her wash. He helped her with her basket.  He then fist-bumped the boy on the tricycle.  He smiled at the formerly pregnant lady’s new baby in the stroller.  The birds chirped beautifully and the sun lit his new, fuller world.

The unselfish man smiled at the water bugs in the puddle on the side of the road.  He said goodbye to his former life and allowed his curiosity to lead him on down the road.

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Hitting the reset button.

It’s four o’clock on a Sunday afternoon.  The house is quiet and I’m pondering my future. And my past.  I probably should take a long nap instead.  I can’t though — my mind is racing.  I’m about to rethink everything I’m doing.  What’s working. What’s not.

It’s time to hit the reset button. To clear the cache. To defragment the hard drive.  Great things are coming. I just need to tweak my plan to make it so.

I’ve allowed others’ disbelief in me to hold me back. No more.

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Sunday Free-For-All

Good morning! What’s up?

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Three wishes

As I get older, I am convinced God is not a Genie. You just don’t pray and receive your wish.  You receive opportunities to grow and achieve your wish.  That may be theologically debatable, but it’s my experience.  I’ve always prayed for success, patience and organization.  God’s giving me the opportunity for all three. Now I have to meet Him half way.

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BONUS CARTOON: Giving up

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First week on the radio

I have a face for radio and a voice for newspapers.  But I found myself taping TV and being on the radio last week. Life is funny like that.

I’m now the host of the Marshall Ramsey Show on SuperTalk Mississippi every afternoon from 3 until 6.  So far, the reaction (at least that I’ve heard) has been extremely positive.  I know it has changed how I operate my life.

I once prayed to become organized. As I get older, I’m convinced that God isn’t like a genie in a bottle — He doesn’t just grant wishes. He gives you  opportunities to achieve the things you seek.  My life is much busier now and trust me, I’m more organized.  Not by choice, but by necessity.  So I can now check that prayer request off. I’m more organized.

I’m learning the dynamics of putting on a good radio show.  I compare it to learning to drive a stick shift.  At first, you have to be conscious of every movement.  You grind a few gears and stall the engine a few times. But as time goes on, your subconscious takes over and you become smoother. I suspect my show will become like that, too.

I work with incredibly gifted people. Jim Thorne, my producer, is calm in a storm. I’m a storm. So I appreciate having him there to keep me out of the ditch. Andi Peterson has booked some fantastic guests for me.  Pat LaBlanc has shaped the sound of the show.  And I appreciate the advice I’ve gotten from the other two show hosts Paul Gallo and JT.

One week down, 51 more to go.   I listen to my cousin’s show and I marvel at how easy he makes it sound.  After a week, I know that it is more than just talent. It’s preparation.  And right now, I need to go prepare for today’s show.

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Banjo

“If you want a friend in Washington, get a dog” President Harry S Truman

The practical side of me knows that when a nearly 13-year-old diabetic dog gets that sick, he’ll probably die. He’s the animal equivalent of a 1974 Ford Pinto with 250,000 miles on it. But my practical side has no say in things when it comes to Banjo.  My heart runs the ship.

Banjo is my Border Terrier.  My dog. And my friend.  When others who I believe in me let me down or betray me, Banjo’s there. He’s why dogs are called, “Man’s best friend.”  And even in the ranks of dogs, there are none more loyal.

He nearly died yesterday. His glucose shot off the charts and he threw up and urinated all over the house.  He laid on the couch and barely could lift his head.  A $152 trip to the vet bought a reprieve but he then went downhill again yesterday afternoon. We thought we were going to lose him.

But Banjo is tough. As I sat there, holding him in my arms, I prayed for him.  I know he won’t live forever.  I just don’t think I can handle losing him right now.  We lost his aunt, Molly last November.  It was the same week I had been busted to part-time and Banjo and I became a two-person/dog support group. He was adjusting to being an only dog. I was adjusting to whatever the Hell my new reality was.  He’d sit in my lap as I drew.  He’d listen as I cursed the sky.

He’s lying on the bed right now.  We have a blanket on him and he’s staring at me, half awake.  He could barely walk this morning but has gotten stronger as the day has passed.  At least he is eating. And I think we’ve gotten his glucose levels back under control.

I listened with interest to the opponents of the animal cruelty bill. Some seemed to think that we have a right to abuse dogs and cats because they are lesser creatures.  I feel sorry for people like that. I guess they never had a dog like Banjo.

Here’s some advice he gave me earlier in the year.  I don’t know how long I’ll have Banjo in my life. But I thank God for every day He keeps him around.

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#winning

Charlie Sheen has made the word “winning” trendy again.  Of course, with him, it’s an oxymoron.  Can’t say anything he’s done lately could be considered winning. He’s the love child of a car wreck and a train wreck.

But enough about Sheen. Lord knows the man has gotten enough free publicity.  No, my son really learned what winning was about today. Thankfully it did not involve Tiger Blood or Adonis DNA.

Tonight was his school’s award night.  And he did not win one. It was his last chance — and he walked out of the theater empty handed. And disappointed.

As we drove home, I asked him what had happened earlier that day.

“I got the Arrow of Light.” he said quietly.

The Arrow of Light. The top award in Cub Scouts. An award that took two years of hard work to earn.

“I understand why you are disappointed,” I said.  “Trust me. It would have felt good to win a trophy tonight.  But you did something today not many kids do: You set a goal, worked hard for two years and achieved it.”

He got quiet as I continued.

“I would have been happy and proud of you if you had won for your work.  But what you did this afternoon REALLY made me proud.”

The fact that he had set a goal and achieved it made me swell with pride.

As we drove toward the house, I hoped he realized that winning isn’t just getting a trophy or being famous on TV. Sometimes setting a big goal and achieving it is one of the best wins of all.

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