Marshall Ramsey

Mississippi produces some of America’s most creative artists. So I wondered, “What if we could pack my radio studio with a stand-up comedian, an editorial cartoonist, a musician and two authors and get them to talk about their creative process?” Well, tomorrow, that’s exactly what we’ll do. Tune in Monday at 10 a.m. on Mississippi Public Broadcasting​ to hear Rita B. Brent​, Vasti Jackson​, Steve Yates​, Matthew W. Guinn​ join me on what makes them tick creatively.

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“I want to do Paul Lacoste training with you.”

My then 14-year-old son had seen me working out and wanted to try it, too. I have to admit, I was a little wary. I had done the bootcamp eight times and knew is was physically tough. I didn’t want him to start something, get frustrated and quit. But one thing I know about my kid, when he sets a goal, his laser-like focus kicks in. And I thought it would be fun for us to have something to together. You know, currency for conversation.

So I wrote the check, signed him up and he joined me on the football field.

That was 11-weeks ago. Not only did he get up at 4:15 four days a week to train (how many teenagers do that?), but I’ve seen him get stronger and faster. I discovered he’s remarkably fast. (I mean scary fast). And I’ve watched his confidence soar.

I cherished the rides too and from Madison Central. We’d discuss the workouts (that currency I was talking about) and what ever came to mind. I watched with pride as he would blow past me running (I am heavier, older and have bad knees after all). I’ve watched him set a goal and achieve it. And I watched as he became healthier.

As a dad, I could not be more proud of him. Now, I need to up my training so I can continue to run with him.

Thanks to Paul Lacoste​, Clark Bruce, Ty Trahan, Coach NASCAR and Neil Woodall for helping him change his life.

I look back at the past five years and honestly believe that everything bad that happened was placed in front of my path to make me better. I’ve faced challenges that have made me question my talent, my abilities, my work ethic, my heart and who I am as a person. In that time, I’ve succeeded — and I’ve failed miserably.

It has been a time of reflection. And anger. I’ve struggled with forgiveness. I’ve learned who my true friends are.

I needed the past five years and the challenges it brought. After my cancer, I sought security. Security is a mirage that can be blown away with the flick of a finger. What I should have been focused on is embracing change. There is nothing more dangerous than a comfort zone. That’s where I planted my flag — and I paid steep price for it.

Build your house on a foundation of stone.

We live in tough times. But tough times require tough people. I now know that I need to put my family first. My wife needs me. My kids need me. Everything else will fall in place. I also need tough personal standards. Hard work and talent are great. But without focus, you get nowhere. So I am working hard on strengthening my will — that’s why I get up at 4 a.m. to crush myself on a football field. I’m relighting the pilot light in my heart. That’s what drives the perseverance required to truly to succeed.

I’m a blessed man. A lucky man. I get to do what I love to do. I have my health and my family loves me. Yes, I have struggles. But we all do. The best way to overcome them is to help others.

So I reject fear. It has crippled me too long. I’m so thankful for the blessing of tough times.

I was temporarily stuck in traffic this morning and I decided to look around at the people surrounding me. There was a balding man, probably my age, driving an older four-door sedan. He had a worried look on his face — I began to make up a life for him (I do that a lot.) He probably had a family. Or he could be going through a divorce. He might be worried about his job. Or he could just have to pee because he drank too much coffee. On the other side of me was a younger woman, probably 25 or so. She had a small SUV and was busy tapping on her phone. I could see her smile — whatever it was she was reading brought her a moment of joy.

We pass strangers every day and just let them pass us by. I thought about that as I watched the people in the cars. Every one of those people had a story. Every one of those people has something they are dealing with. It may be a tragedy. A divorce. Sickness. A loss of a job. Drugs may be destroying someone in their family. They may be battling the bottle themselves.

It’s easy to get caught up in your own drama or even some trumped-up controversy on cable news. Lord knows I have gotten worked up over my own stuff recently. But at that moment, when I was sitting in traffic, I thought about my purpose on this earth. And I thought, if I can bring a moment of joy to someone else — someone who is going through their own hell, then maybe a good life is possible after all.

Empathy is hard to find when you’re caught in rush hour traffic. But for a brief moment, I felt it.

On a old porch, a small boy sat with his mother. Lightning flickered on the horizon off toward the Yazoo River. The boy, frightened, asked his mother if they’d be safe from the storm.

“It’s just heat lightning,” she said. Her hand shook as she spoke.

It was the first of many lies she would tell him. A storm was coming — and not just one from the sky. He was six and soon she was gone. His grandmother, a stern woman with short gray hair and a shorter temper, would raise him. He never saw his mother again.

Thirty years later

Lightning flickered across the sky. Watching the clouds, he thought of his mother and wondered what had become of her. He had wondered off and on about her for thirty years — mainly when there were incoming storms. “It’s just heat lightning,” he thought to himself. “Just heat lightning.”

No.

The air was thick. Humidity choked the Mississippi Delta — so thick that even the mosquitoes were swimming. He sat on the tailgate of his pickup truck. Lightning flashed again, illuminating the towering thunderhead. Next to him was a small boy.

“Dad, is that heat lightning?”

He looked down at his six-year-old son and said all he could say, “No. It’s an incoming storm. But I’ll be here to protect you. And I’ll always be here for you.”

In a way, I wish my dream had been to become a doctor or an accountant. Both are noble and require a mind-numbing amount of work to achieve. But I couldn’t do anything that easy. I had to chase after something that has no textbook, no plan, and no roadmap.

That’s why I admire Scott Albert Johnson so much. He’s chasing a crazy dream, too. Monday, I interviewed him on my radio show and my questions kept drifting into the “when did you get this dream of being a musician and how did you achieve it?” Scott went to St. Andrew’s Episcopal School and Harvard. He’s smart enough that he could have done anything he wanted to. But while in college, a muse whispered in his ear — and she handed him a harmonica.

There was one point that he said he was studying for a final exam but kept picking up my harmonica and playing it. That’s when I knew his dream was real.

You know your dream is legit if your heart drags you toward it.

Yet there is a pretty large gap between playing music and being a professional musician. Just like there is a gap between drawing cartoons and being a professional cartoonist. It’s hard to cross that chasm. There is no roadmap. You look for role models and then you get to work.

You have successes.

And you make a lot of mistakes.

A dream can be cruel. Failure humbles you and you get to a point in your life where you start having to make choices. And during your darkest hours, you are tempted to give up. But you don’t.

Scott’s blessed. He has a great day job (at St. Andrew’s where he helps their students chase their dreams) and he has an amazing spouse. Dreams become houses of cards without a solid foundation and the glue of someone who believes in you. Scott has both. So do I.

Scott’s new album is called “Going Somewhere.” I think it’s aptly titled — because he is. He’s has a great mix of talent, hard work, friends and support.

He’s one of my role models. We dreamers need to stick together.

It was a typical lazy Wednesday in Destin.

The hot, subtropical sun beat down on the dock, causing a bead of sweat to trickle down the old Marine’s nose. It was noon, and the Lizard once again sat in his wheelchair painting Choctawhatchee Bay. He watched as a pelican slid gracefully across the water, gliding until just the right moment before crashing headfirst into the water. “There had to be a better way to get lunch,” the Lizard thought. Why couldn’t they just order from the snack bar? The Lizard had lived on fried food for nearly two decades.

“I might not live to live to 100 if I keep this up,” he chuckled to himself.

Ominous clouds built from the southwest. It was hurricane season and storms blew up quickly this time of year. The water was as warm as bathwater and the Gulf was like a firework tent run by chain smokers.

But he didnt care. He had survived several storms — here and on Okinawa.

His leathery fingers flexed as he carefully packed his paints and took the canvas off the easel. Thunder roared as he rolled up the dock toward the Cranky Pelican’s snack bar. Joe, the owner, knew the Lizard ate fried shrimp and oysters everyday for lunch. And like every other day, Joe had it waiting with a cold beer.

The Lizard nodded and put down his money. Joe offered to run a tab, but the Lizard was a child of the Great Depression. He didn’t believe in debt.

Lightning struck one of the condo towers across the bay and rain began to pelt the Cranky Pelican’s roof. Lobster red tourists ran for cover as wind whipped the snow-white sand into a swirling tempest. Tables overturned and chairs scattered. The Lizard laughed. In his younger days he would have welcomed God to strike him down.

But not today. He had work to do.

The Lizard needed to complete his painting. The wounded warriors at the V.A. needed his help.

A strange sound came up from behind, catching him by surprise. It was too heavy for footsteps. He turned quickly to see a brown-headed man behind him. The Lizard looked down and saw two prosthetic legs.

“I hear you’re a good painter. Mind if I join you?”

The Lizard nodded.

“I also hear you’re a crappy conversationalist. No worry — I’ll do the talking.”

The Lizard smiled. He hadn’t spoken in nearly 70 years. Some people said he had forgotten how to talk. The last words he had said were “I’m so sorry” to the parents of his best friend — a friend who was dead because of him. Guilt and pain took his voice. The Lizard could still talk – he just didn’t want to.

“My name is Randy. Like you, I’m a Marine. I proudly served in Baghdad. And I think my legs are still back there still. Anyway, I want to paint with you.”

The Lizard looked closer at Randy’s arms. He could see scarring where shrapnel had torn his flesh. This boy had gone through his own brand of hell. The Lizard pointed to his canvas and nodded.

“Great! But first, let’s eat,” Randy grinned.

The Lizard watched as the young man wolfed down his oysters. Another bolt of lightning hit close by, rattling the liquor bottles at the bar.

By the time Randy’s plate was clean, the rain had subsided. The Lizard rolled out to the end of the dock. Gray clouds shrouded the bay. Randy pulled up a chair and put a canvas on his own easel. Both men silently looked out on the bay and waited as the clouds began to clear.

“I came home from the war a wreck. I lost my job, started drinking and then my wife left after I became violent. I looked for answers in the bottle of a bourbon bottle. Didn’t find them. Then I went to the V.A. and got counseling. They said I could get additional help because of an anonymous benefactor. One day as I was walking out counseling, I saw the most beautiful painting I had ever seen. It was in the lobby. So I went to the art store and bought some canvases. My first painting was a mess. But the second one was a little better. And then the third was even better. Soon, I felt peace while painting. I asked who painted the painting in the lobby, and someone told me about you. The men at the marina said I’d find you here. They said people called you the Lizard and you didn’t talk.

Well, since you don’t talk, you don’t have to say ‘You’re welcome.” But I will say this, “thank you.” You saved my life. And my marriage. And my soul.”

Both men stared at each other for a moment and tear trickled down the Lizard’s cheek. He reached out his hand and shook Randy’s scarred hand.

Then he looked him in the eye and spoke his first words in seven decades.

“You’re welcome, Randy. My name is Bob.”

At that moment, the warm Florida sun broke through the clouds, illuminating both men.

The storm was over. And the Lizard finally found peace.

Somewhere near Destin, Florida sits an old man who paints heaven after living through hell.

They call him the Lizard. Every day, he rolls his wheelchair down the dock and every day, he quietly paints as he soaks up the sun. The workers at the marina had a pool to guess his identity, but no one really knew for sure. All they knew was that he was old and didn’t speak. And that had been painting on that dock for as long as they had been alive.

As the Lizard quietly applied watercolor to canvas, a slight breeze rippled the clear water. Cumulonimbus clouds exploded on the horizon. Storms would be there by noon. But that didn’t seem to bother the Lizard. He just continued to paint.

A gull landed on a post nearby. The Lizard stopped what he was doing and pulled a crust of bread out of the tackle box. He tossed it to the waiting bird. It seized the crust and flew off. It was a routine the two practiced every morning. The Lizard wished he could be so free.

Instead, he continued to be a prisoner of a war that ended so many years ago.

In an attempt to be released, he had painted over 500 paintings since the end of World War 2. That war. The war that cost him his soul.

A sergeant in the Marine Corps, the Lizard had been in a fox hole on some Godforsaken South Pacific Island. A Japanese late-night sneak attack cost his best friend’s life. The Lizard was on watch and had fallen asleep. For reasons he didn’t understand, they spared him.

He wished he had died that night.

The next day he tried to commit suicide by charging a Japanese machine gun nest. Instead of the death, he received the Congressional Medal of Honor.

The last time the Lizard spoke was when he gave the medal to his best friend’s parent’s. His last words were, “I’m so sorry.” That was in 1946. The next day, he walked away from his parent’s home and disappeared into the night. He took his Marine Corps back pay and bought a small piece of land on the Gulf Coast. Then he picked up a brush and tried to make peace with God.

Everyday, he prayed, “Release me from this pain. Let me die on this dock.”

But God had other plans. One day, a rich yacht owner saw one of The Lizard’s paintings. While reluctant to sell at first, the Lizard wrote an obscene number on a piece of paper — and the crazy rich fool bought it. The old man held the check in his hand and felt the Holy Spirit plant a seed of an idea into his head.

Today, the V.A. Outpatient Clinic at Eglin Air Force base has a secret benefactor. Returning warriors from Iraq and Afghanistan receive extra care and help. And those suffering from PTSD have an angel watching out for them.

An angel named the Lizard — just an old man painting heaven after suffering through hell.

So I’m driving on I-20 in the middle of a gaggle of cars and out of nowhere, a rubber mallet comes bouncing down the interstate. I couldn’t swerve left (I would have kissed an 18-wheeler) so I swerved right off the road. It seemed like a good plan, yet the mallet took an odd bounce and went right into our van’s path. I slammed on the brakes (since I was off the road), hoping to avoid it. No dice. I was rewarded with a sickening thud as it struck the front of my van.

I have a history of crap hitting my car. I’ve lost two a/c condensers to rocks, had a rock take out a radiator and a bullet destroy an engine. I’ve also had numerous cracks on my windshield. We even had a piece of metal take out the trim on a van we were borrowing. Our roads are a minefield full of debris.

I went to the next exit to survey the damage. And I was pissed.

Nothing. I could see no dents, dings or damage. Then I looked closer — a slight dent, barely perceptible to the eye.

I pulled back on the interstate frustrated. Exhausted from an emotional weekend and a week of travel, I cursed my dumb luck.

Then I had a reset moment. I didn’t have dumb luck. I had awesome luck. My van had just been hit by a sledgehammer and was basically uninjured. My family was ok and we were still heading on our merry way.

So many times we see life’s glass half empty. We focus on what is wrong and don’t even notice what’s going right. And I can tell you from experience, that’s exhausting. But one thanks to one bouncing mallet in the middle of nowhere, I got a wake-up call.