20 for 20: Episode three — Ring of Truth

katrina22To mark my 20th year of being a cartoonist in Mississippi, I thought I’d dig out 20 tales from the past two decades. Some are funny. Some are serious. All tell the story of how I came to fall in love with this sometimes frustrating but always fascinating state we live in.

A chilled wind blew in off the steel gray Mississippi sound. Civilization was offline; destruction stretched from horizon to horizon. Hurricane Katrina had visited in August. And her wrath still was being dealt with in December. As you traveled down the beach, you could see residents living in tents. FEMA trailers had begun pop up like formaldehyde-tainted mushrooms.

Debris marked the spot of broken dreams and lives. Cold rain fell from the sky.

Earlier in the day, I had stood on a compromised roof, installing a tarp as three Pit Bull Terriers placed bets on when I’d fall. I was volunteering with Camp Coast Care and helping people get their lives back. The group I was working with quickly fixed the roof and headed to our next assignment — one that was a bit unusual.

We were searching for a ring.

The house we stopped at was the last house destroyed by Katrina’s record-setting storm surge. Water had unexpectedly caught the owners by surprise and they had to evacuate quickly. A precious wedding ring was left behind.

Our mission? To find the proverbial needle in the haystack of debris. Looking at the debris, it seemed like a hopeless mission. But we were there in the name of God. And it would take a miracle to find it.

Down the street was a 1960’s Chevrolet pickup next to a more modern Toyota RAV4. The Toyota was crushed like a PBR beer can — never underestimate the power of water. But the truck was as recognizable as it was rusty. I asked the owner of the house if it had been his truck (he collected WW2 memorabilia and had an old, now destroyed, Willy’s Jeep.)

“No,” he said. “It got sucked out during Camille and brought back by Katrina.”

What the Sound taketh, it giveth back.

Later in the afternoon, we were taking a break after digging through he muck. I pointed to a white pickup truck across the street.

“What happened to them?” I asked.

The truck was where the carport used to be. The rest of the house was gone.

“They stayed,” he paused and then continued, “and drowned. Four people behind them did, too.”

Within 90 yards, six souls had been lost.

We continued to dig through the muck. We’d find little pieces of his life. His daughter’s swim team ribbon. An old picture. Like Portkeys in Harry Potter, each item took him on a journey to a memory.

“This is nuts,” one of the other volunteers said exasperated.

I said, “No, we’re down here in Christ’s name. We’re helping him heal.”

We were. The volunteers on the Gulf Coast were religion’s finest moment. It’s when people took what was in the Good Book and put it to practice.

Evening fell and we packed up. The ring remained hidden. The smell of death still wafted through the air. A cold drizzle dampened a frazzled American flag.

Ten years later, I returned to the same spot. The owner of the house had rebuilt a concrete palace on pillars. The Mississippi Sound could taunt the land again — but the house would stand this time. I walked up the stairs and knocked on door. The owner opened up and I introduced myself. I showed him the pictures I had drawn from that day and he told me about his last ten years, the insurance battles and his desire to move on. I didn’t blame him.

As I started to leave, I turned and asked him, “Did you ever find the ring.”

He smiled and said, “Yes. About a week after you left.” I volunteer had sunk a shovel into the muck and found it.

Right in the middle of the worst disaster to hit the Mississippi Gulf Coast, a minor miracle had taken place. Faith was rewarded.

It was a ring of truth.

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20 for 20: Episode Two — You ain’t from around here

To mark my 20th year of being a cartoonist in Mississippi, I thought I’d dig out 20 tales from the past two decades. Some are funny. Some are serious. All tell the story of how I came to fall in love with this sometimes frustrating but always fascinating state we live in.

Soon after arriving in Jackson, I was invited to a literary club luncheon. It was a small gathering in a nice home in a nice neighborhood. There were probably 20 very well dressed ladies who were a bit older than my 28 years. (I didn’t ask ages, of course. That would have been rude.)

It was a very happy affair. Politeness was served along with the snacks and punch.

I set up my projector and stood up in front of the group. I think it was one of my first public speeches (I’ve given hundreds of them since). Anyway, I took a breath and started with this gem of a line, “I wanted to thank you guys for having me here today.”

Silence. Then stares. More silence.

It was like I had farted.

My sin? I realized I had said “you guys” when I was the only guy in the room. No “you” or “y’all.” You guys.

One lady said without a smile, “You ain’t from around here are you?”

I smiled and said, “I’m from Atlanta.”

She said, “Just as I thought, you’re a Yankee.”

I came back with the only response I could, “Sherman burned my town down, too.”

The rest of the presentation went well and was well received. But it was at that moment, I realized that I truly now lived in the deep South.

Coming soon, Drawing the Line, a collection of my favorite cartoons from the past 20 years in Mississippi.

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20 for 20: Episode One — Me and J.C.

 

To mark my 20th year of being a cartoonist in Mississippi, I thought I’d dig out 20 tales from the past two decades. Some are funny. Some are serious. All tell the story of how I came to fall in love with this sometimes frustrating but always fascinating state we live in.

Let’s start with this truth: I am not a native Mississippian — although my great great grandfather did spend time in Mississippi and came to love it, too. His name was Reverend J.C. Eckles, a Methodist circuit rider based in Northeast Mississippi after the Civil War. He also co-founded Wood College in Mathiston, Mississippi. (When they were open, his picture was on their website. I always marveled with jealousy when I saw his chin.)

Of course, when I moved here, I so wanted to find out I had Mississippi roots. But let me warn you: When digging for your roots, it’s wise to call before you dig. When I started asking around, my aunt told me about my great great grandfather’s other wrinkle to his past: He was a lieutenant in the Union Army. He was in Yazoo City. Vicksburg. And the Battle of Jackson. Yup. He was stationed right where Cannon Nissan is today.

In his memoirs, J.C. talks about how his men were getting cranky, so he snuck into town and liberated some tobacco. His men were so overjoyed that he wrote that he went from being the worst officer in the U.S. Army to being able to be elected President.

I, of course, was horrified. You would be too if you discovered your great great grandfather started the crime wave in Jackson.

J.C. married my great great grandmother (Alice, who was an amazing artist in her own right and whose family was from Holly Springs) and moved back to Ohio. He was friends with the Wright Brothers (my grandmother sat on Orville’s knee) and started another college. He’s buried in Maryville, Tennessee.

But he loved Mississippi. He said in his memoirs that the people of Mississippi liked him even though he “ministered to Republicans and Negroes.”

I feel similar love. I piss off people every day but have been (for the most part) warmly embraced by the people of Mississippi. I have three native Mississippi boys running around the house. Our family has been blessed to live here.

I’m sure J.C. is smiling.

 

P.S.  Found this from the Webster Progress Times. I’ve had days like this:

At this time, J.C. Eckles was presiding elder, not only for the pine chapel, but also missionary work among colored Methodist. They were also planning to build a large school building near Pine Chapel, aided by funds from the Southern Educational Society and Rust College. A storm of protest broke, which grew for 10 years and covered much of Webster County. J.W. Stewart of Clarkson carried Dr. Eckles out of Pine Chapel community one night for fear of mob violence. Dr. Eckles made it to Grenada by relay of horses, where he caught a train to Memphis.

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They say you want a revolution

img_0064“They say you want a revolution…” John Lennon

Dr. John Bohstedt taught me about revolutions. A University of Tennessee history professor (and hero for stopping a mass shooter at his church in 2008), Bohstedt explored three revolutions in his World History 101 class: The American Revolution, The French Revolution and the Industrial Revolution and the effects they had on the world. To his credit, he helped me see how big mass changes affect the little man.

Not sure if Dr. Bohstedt still teaches, but I’d have to believe if he did, he’d add a new revolution to his list: The Internet Revolution. Between it and trade deals like NAFTA, we’re no longer competing in our own hometowns. We’re competing on a global scale. The Internet has been the ultimate disrupter. Just ask the music business. Or the media. Or the former manager of Blockbuster.

Not saying that’s all bad. (Well, it is to the manager of Blockbuster). Obviously, our world has become smaller, but it has also become better. You have a world of information at your finger tips. We have the ability to become smarter — if we choose to be. We can Snapchat until our eyes bleed.

But like I said, it has been a disrupter. A tidal wave of change has swept away longstanding traditional institutions. We the people now control the channels (well, and the Internet providers). You no longer have to impress a gatekeeper to become successful. You have to impress the world. You have to learn to surf.

Piece of cake, right?

I think that’s something I keep in mind on a daily basis. We all have to hone our personal brand every single day. And that doesn’t mean you have to sell yourself out to be great (some people try that route and eventually fail). No, you have to be yourself — and darn good at it.

I had a friend who asked me about personal branding and thought it meant selling your soul by self promotion. “No!” I said, “just the opposite!” You need to make sure people know what your soul stands for. When they see your name, what do they think? What does your work mean to them? It means sticking your head out of the foxhole and taking a few shots. It means being a great storyteller. It’s serving other people with a passion. When they see your name, they think “I want to take a look!”

If you’re a teacher, how can you be unique and make a difference in your student’s lives? If you are a politician, how can you uplift your constituents, not scare them? If you are an accountant, what makes you special as compared to competitors halfway across the world. Are you a policeman? How can you serve the citizens better?

What makes you unique in this world?

I can tell you right now, it’s not price. Not unless you hate to eat. You have to be an event. I remember walking into stores in the Galleria Mall in Houston, Texas. I could have bought the stuff in there on the Internet for half. But each store engaged all five of my senses. Each was an event.

We have a lot of good tools to work with. Social media is a great way to tell the world who you really are. Are you a narcissist? Do you provide information that uplifts and challenges people? Do you make people think? Do you engage in conversation? Or do you just project out into the world.

I’m writing this today because it’s on my mind. I’m thinking about what I need to do better. I’m also going to be talking to students at a national collegiate journalism conference. They’re going to have to understand how to develop their own voice. Their own brand. It’s about getting useful information out to a distracted public in an engaging and entertaining way. They are walking into a landscape that is changing daily. Will they be able to adapt?

The tools are out there. All it takes is a little creativity and a lot of hustle.

Dr. Bohstedt helped me see how the Internet has changed my world. I see the revolution. Now to improve my game to adapt to it.

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Rolling with the punches

So this was my day yesterday:

I was eating my free breakfast at the hotel before my speech and managed to spray yogurt all over my jacket while opening the foil lid.

Damn.

I cleaned it off, regrouped and headed out to the car.

My tire was low. OK. There was a gas station next door with free air. I could handle it. No need to panic. I was cooking with grease so far.

Then I got to the venue and opened up the back to unload my boxes of books. I bent down and heard a giant riiiiiiiiiippppp.

Double damn.

Yes, my pants ripped. The hole was six inches long in the back.

Hmm, I thought. This could be VERY a revealing show.

But once again, I didn’t crack up (well, I guess I kind of did). I grabbed a pair of jeans out of my bag and went into the restroom and changed. Everything still matched. The less-revealing show could go on. Life was good.

None of the things that happened were bad, per se, but they started to pile-on like some kind of poop avalanche. The old me would have lost my cool. But not this time. I just laughed as a black cat panicked when I crossed its path.

I got up, got the crowd up and laughing and they gave me a standing ovation. My jacket was yogurt free, tire was inflated and my pants were without a hole.

Life throws you crazy sometimes and if you learn to laugh at it, you get some good stories to tell.

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Sports = life. This weekend proved it.

A few thoughts on some of the sporting news over the weekend:

Arnold Palmer was a class act and made golf cool. I remember my Dad being a fan — so naturally, I became one, too. Like Jack Nicklaus said, “He always tried to make himself better.” That’s something we all should try to do. And we should have the same passion for our professions. He lived a long life, yet I’m sad to see him die. I hope my Dad gets to play a round with him.

I just wish 2016 would stop taking our icons.

Jose Fernandez didn’t live a long life. He was tragically taken at the very young age of 24. But he loved living during the time he had. — some of the clips on the internet were amazing. Such passion and joy for the game. But his death was a terrible reminder that life is very fragile and that we should make the most of it. Call a loved on today. Tell them that you love them.

Dak Prescott continues to prove his critics wrong. So many people tried to create a story for him (he should switch to tight end, he can’t throw, he can’t blah blah blah.) But Dak hasn’t bought into that story. Yeah, he can run. But he also has an astronomical quarterback rating and has not thrown an interception through preseason and the season so far. His work ethic is epic and has turned down endorsements so he can focus on the game. Dak proves that success is the best revenge. And that you should never buy into someone else’s story about you.

Les Miles reminds us why coaches get such large buyouts. When you’re a big-time college coach, it isn’t if you’ll be fired, it’s when. He now joins Phil Fulmer in the “I won a National Championship but I still got canned” club. But he’ll be fine. I’m sure he’ll take his clock-management skills to another team eventually. But as a Tennessee fan, I have one bit of advice for my LSU friends: Don’t hire Lane Kiffin. If you do, you might as well plow salt into your football field. (Trust me.) But it’s a good reminder that none of us are secure in our jobs. We have to earn it every day.

Speaking of being a Tennessee fan, I’m relieved Tennessee finally got the Florida Gators off their backs and out of their heads. I tell you, I thought Florida was going to whip them once again until halftime. And then Tennessee rattled off 38 unanswered points in the second half. Neyland Stadium came alive and frustrated Florida’s office. Tennessee’s Defense did the same. But I think the lesson from the game is this: You haven’t lost until the game is over. And that goes for your life, too. You can always have a comeback. Make your adjustments and play your heart out.

People sometime question the value of sports. But it is an incredible metaphor for life. This weekend was proof.

What do you think?

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Out of your mind: Keeping people out of your head

There is scene in the book Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix where Snape is trying to teach Harry how to keep Voldemort out of his head (Occlumency). Harry and Voldemort are (spoiler alert) connected via the scar on Harry’s forehead, a scar created when Voldemort tried to murder him when he was a baby. There is a reason they are connected, but I won’t spoil that. Let’s just say, I see the brilliance J.K.Rowling’s writing. Harry needed to keep the worst wizard in history out of his head.

How many people do we allow into our heads?

I know I’ve struggled with it in the past. It’s the whole Mark Twain quote: “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” How many times have we held a grudge against someone and allowed it to affect our lives (while at the same time, the person we’re mad at could care less)? I have my hand raised.

Some people just want to screw with you. They enjoy making your life miserable. They get inside of your head and drive you nuts. Don’t give them that power. I’ve had people try to attack me and I don’t give them the time of day. It’s not turning the other cheek per se. It’s just not letting them into your life.

Don’t let them win.

Many years ago I had a person who was absolutely tearing me down. I was depressed and angry. I felt powerless. One day my wife looked at me and said, “You know how much joy you’d bring ___________ if he knew you were this miserable. Stop allowing him ruin your life and hurt your family.”

That one moment allowed me to shut the door once and for all on that person. I went from being a victim to a victor. I remembered something bigger that that one person — my family. And then I started living for them. Yes, he still had power over parts of my life. But I had power over what was most important: My attitude. Things began to change rapidly after that. Soon I stood up to him — and then his power waned.

Harry Potter briefly used Occlumency against Voldemort and did (spoiler alert) end up winning in the end. We can be like Harry and win. It’s all about who and what we allow in our heads.

It’s not magic. But it sure works like it.

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Fifteen years ago:

imageFifteen years ago, thousands of innocent people were slaughtered before our eyes on live television.

Fifteen years ago, we sat stunned as the world changed violently.

Fifteen years ago, first responders ran toward the burning buildings, not away from it.

Fifteen years ago, strangers helped strangers.

Fifteen years ago, our Congressional leaders stopped their partisan bickering long enough to sing together on the Capitol steps.

Fifteen years ago, that very Capitol was saved by the valiant bravery of the passengers on Flight 93.

Fifteen years ago, we stood united against pure evil.

It has been fifteen years. And while “United We Stand” posters may be faded, we still have that power of good within us. I know that seems almost silly to say in light of what we see on TV and on Social Media today. But when we’re shoved up against the wall, we fight back. We saw it on 9/11. We saw it after Katrina.

Sunday will be a day of quiet reflection for me. I’ll remember the terror of that day. But also remember the bravery and kindness of total strangers who pulled together to help others.

It will be a day of sadness. But it will also be a day of respect.

Bless those who died that day. And bless those who died sacrificing their lives for others.

United they stood.

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The best money I’ve spend is for:

The best money I’ve spent is for:

1. One diamond ring and gold wedding band.
2. A tux
3. Running shoes
4. Books
5. All the drawing paper and pens I’ve bought.
6. Money I’ve sunk into my dogs (and cat)
7. The hospital bills when my kids were born (so we could keep them.)
8. The doctor’s bill for my cancer surgery
9. Anything that has made my wife smile.
10. Tickets to the last football game my dad and I attended together.
11. Any family trips.
12. Live concerts for my wife’s and my favorite bands.

While this isn’t a complete list (I am pretty tired), I was just thinking about how I spend my money and what brings the most joy.

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When going through Hell

imageHe’s one of the most positive people I know — and he’s in pain. His marriage is unraveling, leaving him exposed and vulnerable. As we sat at the table, I could see hurt in his eyes.

If I had three wishes, I’d give one to him.

We had lunch the other day and shared our personal woes. Both of us are having cognitive problems from the stress we’re under — I can’t remember squat right now, for example. He’s having similar issues. He’s losing his marriage. I’ve had a tough couple of years with my parents. It’s exhausting. Grief has walled off part of our brains. But what could have easily turned into a pity road trip never quite got there. We got off the first exit and headed in a more positive direction.

He’s worried about his kids. I’ve always known him to be a great dad — so his concern doesn’t surprise me. He’ll still be in their lives — thanks be to God.

Speaking of, he said that God obviously wanted him there for a reason. I admired his ability to try to find a diamond of good in a big heaping pile of crap. He knows love will get him through this. He has been volunteering and trying to help others. He did that before this latest crisis. But now, it’s good therapy. He has a way of inspiring people — and I have to admit, he inspired me.

Winston Churchill said it best, “If you’re going through Hell, keep going.” I know it is tempting at times to lie down and quit. But we all have so much more inside of us than we use. There are times when you have to take a long, hard look at your life and decide what’s truly important. My friend had the decision made for him. But he’s doing a great job plowing through the pain.

He’ll be fine. I have faith in him and his heart. And I’m proud to call him a friend.

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