Something Bigger at Play

When I found out former Governor Kirk Fordice had leukemia, I wrote him a note. It said something to the tune of, “As a fellow cancer survivor, I hope you kick this in the butt. I’m thinking and praying for you. My grandmother had a similar type of leukemia and I know you have a tough fight ahead of you.” I was surprised to find a very kind and thoughtful note in my mailbox a few days later. Governor Fordice died a couple weeks later.

I still have that note and cherish it.

That simple, handwritten note is a reminder to me. When I draw a cartoon, it’s not personal. I don’t hate anyone I draw — well, there are a couple of folks, but I digress. Still, I tend to view politics like the sheepdog and coyote. I believe in getting in the arena and fighting it out. But at the end of the day, you clock out, dust yourself off and come back the next day to fight like hell. It’s old-fashioned but how I roll.

I didn’t agree with Governor Fordice much. And I know he didn’t agree with or particularly like my cartoons. But at the end of the day, there was something bigger at play. And I have come to respect that.2Bert Fordice

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Traveling through the Delta

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Smoke danced on the horizon. Fields were being harvested. Remnants of corn burned, creating wispy brown clouds that hugged the earth. A crop duster danced on the horizon, spraying a cotton field. Soon its leaves would drop to the ground, leaving snow-white bolls to cover the land like new fallen snow. My car driving was heading up Highway 49W in the Mississippi Delta. I was heading to Greenville for a late-morning speech.

The Belzoni McDonalds is a good snapshot of the Delta. You meet every shape, size, color and economic demographic there. Old men sit and discuss the world inside and outside of the Delta. I had just come from Yazoo City, where you leave the rolling hills to enter this flat land. The bluff stands like a sentinel. A sentinel that has watched over this rich (and poor) land for decades.

I ignored Google Maps and took the backroads to Greenville from Belzoni: A left on Highway 12 with its dried up catfish ponds and a right on Highway 61 with it’s wide-open vistas. If you want to get a true feel for how wide-open the Delta is, drive north from Vickburg to Greeville on 61. It’s a wide-open, two-laned road that carves through history. Need proof? You can see Blue Blues Markers dotting the roadside like mushrooms. As you pass them, you realize the tough conditions were the thorns and the sweet music was the rose. We take our own legacy for granted. But read the guest book at the B.B. King Museum in Indianola. It’s filled with people from England and other countries in Europe.

They are pilgrims in our midst.

At 10 a.m., I spoke to the South Delta Planning and Development District’s annual meeting. The Washington County Convention Center’s room was packed with farmers, mayors, retired coaches, clerks, doctors and so many others. I met people who lived off the land and those who struggled at times to live. “Last year, we had no crop and a great market. This year, we have a great crop but no market,” one farmer. So goes the life of those who live off the land. I spoke out in the parking lot to a cancer survivor. Her eyes twinkled as he talked about how grateful she was to be alive. Life overcomes hardship. It’s something you see all around you as your travel through this beautiful land.

Trees. Rich soil. Power lines. Levees. A lone water tower. Dancing crop dusters, hugging the ground like an agitated yellow jacket.

I drove back Hwy. 82 to 49 on the way home. My brain was tired and a four-laned road was what the doctor ordered. Towering cumulonimbus clouds began to build over the South Delta. Storms formed as I headed back to my home in the hills. Giant raindrops hit my windshield like the mosquitoes had earlier.

A crop duster buzzed me as I drove through Belzoni. The pilot was beating the weather and heading home. He glided his craft in for a perfect landing at the airfield.

His day was done. And so was mine.

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Experiencing an experience

white-chocolate-macadamia-nut-cookies-mainHad the opportunity to visit with one of my friends, who is also one of the sharpest businessmen I know. He’s a particularly good marketer and approaches sales based on statistical data. But he also has the ability to sense what a customer wants. I saw him deal with a customer service issue with an ease that most people could never master. I didn’t sense a defensive moment in the conversation. It was impressive.

He and I were talking about how many businesses forget to create a positive customer experience. He said that his business tries several small things to engage the customer. “It may just be one thing that impresses them. I don’t know what it will be, but they will encounter something they like.” His philosophy reminded me of a recent trip to the Galleria shopping mall in Houston, Texas. I could have bought anything in that mall for 50% off on the internet. But the place was packed. Why? All of the stores engaged all five of their customers’ senses. They created an experience.

As I write this, I have a drawing I have to get done for a customer that is overdue. I had intended to get it finished on Sunday, but life got in the way. No excuses, though. I think about the experience my customer is having because of my lack of performance. It’s not good.

I will rectify my error today.

But it’s something we all should think about whether in business or in our daily lives. Every encounter with a person should be an experience. Make it memorable. Engage their senses. Make it count. (even if you intend it to be negative — by God let them walk away knowing how you feel!)

Right now, I’m sitting in a waiting room munching on a cookie. But I’ve gotten more than dessert to eat. I’ve been given pretty good food for thought.

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Fit2Fat2Fit Blog: September 16, 2014

side-plank-on-hand_-_step_2.max.v1My butt got kicked this morning.

Paul Lacoste’s workout is famous for that. You cruise along and WHAM! — something just completely wipes you out. Coach Clark did it to us this morning. For 20 minutes, I was pretty much either doing a plank or doing a straight-arm plank. My shoulders are now mush. My body is tired. And my head is trying to reevaluate exactly how in-shape I actually am.

And that’s a good thing.

I’m embarrassed to say, my knees hit the ground a few times. It was more a struggle than I thought it would be. I “failed.” But that’s not a bad thing. Failure gives you a benchmark for improvement. You don’t beat yourself up. You look at where you are and where you want to go.

Right now, I want to go to bed.

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The School Picture

I just cut out your school picture. Although we share a name, you look so much like you mama. You are even blessed to have her beautiful blue eyes. Your head is cocked slightly and your chin is up. You’re grinning like only you can do. It’s a funny grin that makes me smile.

Waves of love are crashing down on me. It’s funny how one little picture can do that.

You inspire me. And you’re taught me to see the world in a different way. You experience life in ways I never will. I’m better for it. You made me infinitely more compassionate. I now see things I never could before.

Like your brothers, you are wickedly smart. But your intelligence stuns me sometimes. You are gifted in ways I can’t understand. And those gifts have allowed you to overcome so much. And you have a strong will.You represent perseverance to me. You’ve proved so many people wrong.

I want to be just like you, son, when I grow up.

Unfortunately, the world you’re entering is cruel. People are mean. And they will be mean to you. Life itself isn’t easy. And you will struggle. Your mother and I will do everything in our life to protect you. But more importantly, we will do everything in our ability to prepare you for it. You have so many people who love you — but none more than your parents.

I hold this small school picture in my hand. It’s truly one of the most precious gifts I’ve ever received.

 

 

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Traveling without a map

HomeartI didn’t take direct route to get my college diploma. It was full of mistakes, dead-ends and detours. That has helped my career. I didn’t take direct route to get my dream job, either. It was full of mistakes, dead-ends and detours. That helps me now.

There was no syllabus for me to get where I am. No plan. No map. I had to feel my way. I’m thankful for that.

I have been fired, cut back, told my work wasn’t good enough. But none of that stopped me. It just gave me a laboratory where I could learn.

When you have a family, taking risks is, well, risky. I don’t want to put my wife and kids in peril. But sitting still did just that. Now at 4 in the morning, I walk into my kids’ rooms and vow to be a better husband, dad and man. It’s my promise to them.

I wish I had understood the importance of getting out of your comfort zone at 16. But that’s OK. It’s never too late to start.

 

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Fit2Fat2Fit Blog: September 15, 2014

Trust me, when I’m out on the football field at 5 a.m., I’m not looking for life lessons. I’m sweating and struggling to keep up with my in-shape line-mates. But like the artificial field’s rubber pellets, some metaphor seems to always come home with me. And this morning was no different.

side-plank-on-hand_-_step_2.max.v1We were on the last station of the day. It was Clark’s ab-apalooza and Coach Clark isn’t exactly a softie when it comes to his workouts. We were doing side-arm planks using one arm and then doing crunches with our other bent arm.

1. I was tired.
2. My shoulders are pretty beat up from old injuries.
3. So it wasn’t exactly easy.
4. Did I mention I was tired?

But something weird clicked while I was doing the exercise. I decided to do them perfectly. I leaned into the exercise. I made a conscious decision to make the most of opportunity to get stronger.

How many times in life have I just tried to get through something? More times than I can count. Job. School. Marriage. Fatherhood. I might be tired or busy or some other BS excuse. I cut corners and left a little in tank. And I never really got better. Or lived.

I’m not sure I had an epiphany this morning. But it was darn close. Maybe it was reading about the untimely death of Godwin Group’s former chairman Danny Mitchell at the increasingly young age of 66. Maybe it is the realization that life is very fleeting and tenuous. I don’t know. But I am going to stop leaving so much life in the tank. When I get to the finish line, I won’t need it.

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The Second Act: An appreciation of my favorite Star Wars movie

DarthandMeIt was the summer of 1977. I was nine and sitting in Canton Corners movie theater. The lights went dim and something magical happened: The Dolby sound cranked up and a giant Imperial Star Destroyer zoomed across the screen.

My world was rocked.

I’ve been a Star Wars fan ever since (I prefer the Original trilogy, thank you very much).

I loved the first movie — which is the fourth movie which was once known as Star Wars but now it known as A New Hope. It had everything a nine-year old could want: Space ships, lasers, a bad-A bad guy, droids, a Wookiee, a rogue hero, a Jedi knight. I wanted to be Luke Skywalker (minus the whining, of course). I knew all my childhood dreams could come true. Like Luke escaped Tatoonie, I’d leave my middle-class suburban life behind for adventure. I’d get a medal from a princess for blowing up a Death Star.

But all these years later, it’s New Hope’s sequel that I really love.

I’ll forgive George Lucas for Jar Jar for a moment and say this, the man crafted an amazing story. Not only did the world he create fire my imagination, I learned story structure. A New Hope was the first act in a three-act play. Good guys win. In Return of the Jedi, the third (but really the sixth) movie the good guys triumphed. But like an Oreo, the middle contained the good stuff. The Empire Strikes Back remains one of my favorite all-time movies. Why? The bad guys rocked!

Luke Skywalker got his butt kicked all over the galaxy. Don’t believe me? Here’s a list:

1. He got attacked by Bumbles the Abominable Snowman.
2. He then was stuffed in a stinky Tauntan.
3. He gets a kiss from his sister.
4. His gunner Dak was smushed like a bug.
5. He crashes in a swamp.
6. Yoda crushes him with a broken-syntax wisdom and Cross-fit.
7. He discovers he has the worst father in the galaxy.
8. Instead of a hug, his dad chops his hand off.
9. He takes a plunge to avoid the dark side.
10. A lot of bad stuff happens to his friends (Han gets turned into a coffee table for example.)

The second act is always when the bad stuff happens. It’s when the good guys are tested. It’s when all hell breaks loose. Luke and company couldn’t have won in Jedi without the lessons learned in Empire.

George Lucas packed a lot of wisdom into Empire. Yoda could have written fortune cookies after all. But as I am older, I really can relate to the three-act structure. Like Luke, I achieved my dream. Then I had some bad stuff happen (I have my hand still thankfully, never have kissed my sister and have a cool dad). Now I’m ready for the third act. You know, the act when all the good happens.

I just hope it doesn’t include Ewoks (Yub Nub).

P.S. Han shot first.
P.S.S. I look forward to the new movies. Don’t screw it up J.J.

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Genie of the Delta

SSGay-3March 1866, the Port of New Orleans.

The moonlight illuminated the face of the ticket buyer, revealing the darkest eyes the ticket agent had ever seen.

“How many tickets, sir?” he inquired briskly. The quicker he could send this guy to the steamboat Carpathia, the better. He just got chills looking into this man’s eyes.  Something told him the man’s soul was even darker.

The man held up one finger.  The ticket agent noticed the man carried no bags — just a gold lamp with strange writing on it.  He had it carefully tucked in crook of his left arm.

“One ticket to St. Louis.” The man handed over a gold piece and the ticket agent smiled. Since the war, paper money was practically worthless. But gold, well, gold was gold.

He watched as the man walked toward the giant steamboat Carpathia. She was one of the largest ships on the Mississippi River and ran the unpredictable route from New Orleans to St. Louis with stops in Natchez, Vicksburg and Memphis.  Whatever that man’s business was in St. Louis was, he didn’t want to know.  He’d leave that up to God and whoever was waiting for him on the other end. The dark-eyed man was the Carpathia’s problem, now.

Somewhere near Clarksdale, Mississippi on the Mississippi River. 

The Carpathia had made good time. Spring rains engorged the river, making navigation trickier but quicker.  There was more channel to play with.  Dark smoke belched into the sky from the ship’s huge boilers.  The passengers enjoyed the finest of food and drink as the lumbering craft fought Ole Man River’s mighty current up stream.  The man with the dark eyes stayed to himself. He sat in a dimly lit corner of the forward bar and refused to drink. He just watched as those around him wrapped themselves in a fine coat of sin and debauchery. If anyone had noticed, they might have seen he had a slight smile.

They also might have noticed the green clouds forming to the southwest.  But no one did. At least until it was too late.

Tornadoes are fickle beasts. They hop, skip and and dance across the landscape. But not this one. This one charged across the river like it was on rails.  The handful of survivors would claim the tornado came out of nowhere.  It actually formed over Louisiana, traveled across rural Arkansas and cut across south of Clarksdale. It was on the ground for over 100 miles and if the Fujita scale had been invented yet, it would have been rated an EF-5.  By the time it hit the Carpathia, it was over a mile wide, clocking winds of well over 200 mph. Survivors said it looked like the face of the God as it cut across the river. The wooden and steel steamboat was no match for it’s power. Bodies were found in the river and in nearby fields for weeks. One even as far south as Vicksburg. But one corpse was never found. The man with the dark eyes vanished. And so did the mysterious gold lamp he carried.

August 2014, near Farrell, Mississippi. 

Fred Fratesi drove his 1971 Chevrolet along the dusty levee road. A plume of dust marked where he was as he headed toward his bean field nearest to the river. This was high ground — or at least high ground for the Delta.  Part of this area, which was a hunting camp, didn’t even flood during the great flood of 2010.  Legend also said it was also near where the mighty Carpathia sank.  When he was a kid, they found pieces of metal and bones in the fields. Fred had a fear of tornadoes. Anything strong enough to throw a human that far inland had his respect.

He saw a yellow crop-duster dance beyond the tree line. That was his uncle, a crazy old man with a plane named Angie II. His uncle had crashed recently, spent six months in rehab and climbed back into the cockpit. There was something about aviation that gets into a person’s blood. But not for Fred. He liked the security of being close to the ground.  He was connected to the deep, rich soil of the Delta. Like his father and grandfather, he was a farmer. God’s noble profession.  He smiled as he pressed the gas and headed toward his field to check on his beans.

A glint of gold caught his eye.

He slowed the Chevy and squinted.  He lifted his sunglasses and hoped to see the glint again.

There it was. He stopped and hopped out. His 50-year-old body ached as moved with urgency into the field. Half-buried in the soil was the neck of a gold lamp.  He got on his knees and dug out around it. And in his hands was a gold lamp with Arabic written around it — similar to the lettering he had seen during the first Gulf War when he was stationed in Saudi Arabia.

“Aw hell,” he mumbled. “I guess I should rub it to see if a genie’s in it.”

He rubbed it three times and to his surprise, black smoke poured out of the lamp.

“You get three wishes,” the voice boomed.

Fred looked at the genie or whatever it was.  He had the darkest eyes Fred had ever seen. And even though it was 100 degrees, Fred suddenly felt cold.

“I don’t want or need three wishes.”

The genie was puzzled at Fred’s resistance. “Don’t you want great wealth?”

Fred looked the genie into his dark eyes and said, “I have all I want. All I’ve worked for. Don’t want free money. Too many lottery winners go broke.”

The genie tried again, “You can bring back your dead wife.”

Fred’s heart ached. He missed Missy so much. Her death from cancer taken part of his soul.  “No,” he said quietly. “She is at peace. I’ll see her again soon enough.”

The genie was getting frustrated. “POWER. YOU CAN HAVE POWER!”

“Don’t want it. I’m appreciative of the life I have worked for.”

“BUT I CAN ERASE ALL YOUR BAD MOMENTS.”

Fred smiled, “But they were the seeds for my greatest moments. I lost my wife. But we had a great life and have three wonderful children. And Missy left a legacy. We created a scholarship in her honor at Ole Miss. Now underprivileged kids get the chance to change the world. I have no regrets.”

The genie looked around, “So you don’t want anything?”

Fred said, “Well, a little wisdom would be nice.”

The genie looked Fred with his dark eyes and said, “I can’t give you wisdom. You already have it.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Against the Grain by Coach Bill Courtney: A review

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Against the Grain: A Coach’s Wisdom on Character, Faith, Family and Love (2014 Weinstein Books) by Bill Courtney with Michael Arkush. Foreword by Phil Jackson

Life-changing ideas are like angels appearing when you need them the most. You never really know when they’ll show up or how they’ll appear. They just do.

Take the how I came across Coach Bill Courtney’s excellent new book Against the Grain: We rent the Academy Award-winning documentary Undefeated for the boys to watch on a trip from Atlanta. It begins a discussion about service and leadership in the van. I tweet about the movie and how much it moved me. Coach Courtney, who is featured in the documentary, tweets back that I should read his book. I mention that the platform he has received is due to the power of his message. Next thing I know I’m on the phone with him. We agreed there is a leadership crisis in this country on a national and personal level. We agreed on a long list of things.

I feel like I’ve known him my whole life.

Against the Grain: A Coach’s Wisdom on Character, Faith, Family and Love (2014 Weinstein Books) by Bill Courtney with Michael Arkush is a discussion our country needs to be having right now. Among the values Coach Courtney talks about are character (the one thing no one can take from you — but you can lose it yourself), commitment, stepping outside of your comfort zone, service, leadership, civility, dreams, perseverance, the dignity of a hard work, grace and legacy. Each is taught with examples from his years coaching and as the owner of a successful lumber company. All are told with expert storytelling. The book features many people Mississippians know. Chucky Mullins and Brad Gaines’ unlikely friendship after a life-shattering accident. Retired Ole Miss Dean of Students Sparky Reardon’s steady leadership and wisdom during a terrible crisis. Fred Smith’s persistence building Fed Ex. At times the book isn’t politically correct. But it’s always honest and heartfelt. Particularly moving are the stories from his years of coaching and the relationships he built with his players.

““The true measure of a person’s character is how one handles one’s failures, not successes.”

“A true legacy is established over a lifetime and relates to what a human being does for others, not for himself.”

“We should feel grateful instead of entitled. We have a moral obligation to give back.”

“Nothing profound ever happens in your life when you remain in your comfort zone.”

Coach Courtney’s ideas spoke to me, especially his thoughts on character. As did his commitment to his wife and four kids. He believes to lead, you have to serve first — even at home and at work. And he practices what he preaches. If you’ve seen Undefeated, you know that Courtney doesn’t coach football. He coaches young men.

After reading Against the Grain, you will feel like he’s your coach, too.

P.S. And don’t be a Turkey Person. You’ll love the story behind that one.

 

 

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