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Ink Spots Blog: 8/19/13

Watercolorist Wyatt Waters plays and sings one of his original songs on Now Who’s Talking with Marshall Ramsey
Wyatt Waters can paint. Wyatt Waters can sing. Wyatt Waters can write songs and play guitar. I like to get him in the same room so that hopefully some of his talent will rub off on me.
I had him on my radio show today (Now Who’s Talking with Marshall Ramsey on Mississippi Public Broadcasting, Monday’s at 10 a.m..) We had a great conversation going and then he picks up his guitar and starts singing a song he wrote. It was great radio and ended the show on a, pardon the pun, high note.
I love the radio show because I’ve been able to feature Mississippians who are succeeding. Most have overcome obstacles and chase their passions. Sure, I could rail about on all that is wrong with this world. I know you can get that by the bucketful in other places. But I prefer to feature what’s good. Mississippi is full of pretty amazing people.
And I was proud of feature Wyatt today. Not sure if any of his talent rubbed off on me, but I enjoyed having him on. Next week I’ll have on Major General Augustus L. (Leon) Collins, the Adjutant General of Mississippi. His story is pretty cool, too.
But the one golden thread that has run all through my guests is that they’ve had people recognize their talent or gift early and give them support even when the odds were overwhelming against them. My guests weren’t willing to coast on their talent’s coattails. They worked like crazy to chase their passion. And they believe in serving others.
I hope you learn something from the show. I know I am.
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Finding Memories Up in the Sky
Sometimes the best memories aren’t found on the ground.
My two oldest sons and I stopped by the Madison airport Saturday afternoon to see if a B-17 had made its promised appearance. It hadn’t. We visited with a couple of members of the Mississippi branch of the Commemorative Air Force (a group dedicated to preserving historic aircraft.) David Mars was outside, selling rides in his immaculate 1929 Curtis-Wright Travel Air biplane. My middle son really wanted to go up in it, but wasn’t sure his mother would be thrilled that I took her child up in a plane without her knowing. So we went to the bookstore and bought my oldest son a running diary. On the way home, I called their mom and told her how much the ride was going to cost and that I knew and trusted the pilot. David Mars has four classic aircraft and has thousands of flight hours under his belt. He is also an aviation historian — he even owns A Curtis Robin monoplane like the the Key Brothers made their endurance flight (with inflight refueling) in near Meridian. (Their plane, called Ole Miss, is in the Smithsonian Institute.)
So we plunked down the $130 and strapped ourselves in with the lap belt. I had flown several times in smaller planes — even a World War 2 T-6 Trainer. But I’ve never flown in an open cockpit biplane before. My son and I sat together in the front seat. My oldest son sat with David’s very nice teenage assistant and watched — he’d rather sit and talk to her than fly among the clouds.
The radial engine roared to life and we taxied down the runway. Wind blew through our hair as the biplane sped down the runway. First the tail wheel left the ground. And then we left the constraints of Mother Earth.
David kicked the rudder and we went more over Old Canton Road. I could see out easier than my son — he being a bit shorter than me. My stomach lurched as we hit a thermal. And then I saw the Ross Barnett Jr.’s house. And then the giant Reservoir named for his dad. David did a couple of acrobatic maneuvers called a wingover, allowing us a thrill that a roller coaster couldn’t match. We tipped sideways over a boat hauling a tube and waved at them. We got an amazing view of the dam.
The plane then headed up the Reservoir past the fancy homes on the Rankin County side. We buzzed a small ultra-glide air strip and then shot back into the sky like a blue and red eagle. He looped the plane back across the Reservoir and we saw our house, my son’s school, the lake near our house, the Overlook and all the people partying in the boats nearby. David climbed suddenly and did a dive. Our stomachs left the seat with the rest of us. (thank you lap belt!) We then headed over Madison and then I could see the airport. My son and I both stood up and David took our picture. It will be interesting to see how that picture will turn out.
I took one myself of my son as we touched down. He had the biggest smile on his face I’ve ever seen. I’ll cherish that photo for the rest of my life.
We’ve driven by that biplane dozens of times but never stopped. Yesterday we did. And created memories for a lifetime. Sometimes memories aren’t found on the ground. You have to reach a little higher to find them.
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Ink Spots Blog: 8/16/13
A drum line can be like a time machine. I stood in the lobby of the local high school listening to the band play before the pep rally. Suddenly I could smell freshly cut Bermuda grass and felt my old black football helmet strapped on my head. It has been 28 years since I last played high school football. Most days I don’t miss it — but I did last night. I wish all the kids across the state a successful season. I learned a lot about life from my football coaches. I hope the kids today get the same experience I did — good and bad.
I have a speech tomorrow. And hope to see a B-17 tomorrow afternoon. I’m a pretty big aviation buff and love that particular aircraft. It was the workhorse in the Army Air Corps efforts to bomb Germany into submission during World War 2. Pilots loved it because it wasn’t as difficult to fly as the B-24 and was tougher. The plane could take a lot of punishment from flak and fighters and still get home. I can only imagine kids flying these chariots on missions that statistically probably meant they would die. Courage doesn’t even approach the word to describe it.
Working on getting the Banjo book finished. Still waiting on printing bids and need to get the ISBN. I’m not terribly organized, but am getting the opportunity to learn how to be.
It’s amazing to me how our thoughts taint our vision of the world around us. I’m not a total fan of the power of positive thinking, but can tell you this much — it does make life easier to swallow. You can sit around on a sinking ship and complain about it sinking. Or you can do what it takes to get the heck off of it. Strapping deck chairs into a life raft is much more productive than just rearranging and complaining about it.
Have a good weekend! Thank Goodness it is Friday. Thank Goodness it is any day that ends with Y.
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The Spark
Imagine a brand new Ferrari. It has a 950 horsepower V-12 engine and will go from 0-60 mph in less than three seconds. Everything about it is designed for speed. Top speed is over 200 mph and it can stop almost on a dime.
Now take the spark plugs out of the engine. What do you have?
You have a very expensive paperweight. Even my little four-cylinder Honda CR-V could out run it.
Last night I took my sons to the local high school for a “Meet the athletes” night. I looked at the student-athletes sitting on the gym floor and thought about their upcoming season. Being a former student-athlete, I know how hard their schedules are right now. They have to balance their school work and practice. It will be hard work. Then I thought about the kids with less talent that’ll out achieve the kids with more ability. They’ll be the Honda CR-Vs that’ll outrun the Ferraris. Why? They have the spark.
What’s the spark? Motivation. The spark plug that fires our internal engine. The thing that moves us forward even when we don’t necessarily want to.
You can get the spark from external sources. A boss. A coach. Anger. Fear. Praise. Criticism. Your friends. Your spouse. All are like sugar highs that can push you hard — for a little while. But I’ve discovered (the hard way) that an external spark is fleeting at best. Bosses, coaches, friends and spouses can be amazing motivators — but believe me, it can be devastating when they are discouraging.
The spark has to come from inside.
I’ve seen it with dieters. They didn’t lose weight until they decided to lose weight for themselves and not for others.
If you want to see a good movie about a person with internal spark, watch Rudy. Daniel “Rudy” Ruettiger wasn’t even a Honda CR-V. He was a Ford Pinto running with Ferraris. He managed to play for Notre Dame and was the first person from his family to get a college education. He overcame great odds because he had passion.
What can kill your spark? Fear of failure. Fear of success. Depression. External discouragement. Bad news. Laziness. Disorganization. Poor self-esteem. For years, I’d procrastinate just to get enough adrenaline to get up the motivation to do my work. Trust me, that doesn’t scream quality. Steven Pressfield’s amazing book The War of Art explains what was happening to me perfectly. He calls it the Resistance and it is the part of your brain that holds you back to “protect” you. I fight the Resistance every single day.
How? I’m changing my fouled spark plugs. I am creating a framework to make sure I don’t become the Ferrari without the spark plugs. I’m setting goals and sticking to a pretty rigid daily schedule. I’m cutting the Resistance out of my life. I’m determined to succeed for all the right reasons. For reasons that are in my heart.
I’m probably closer to my Honda CR-V than a Ferrari. I’ll run until my wheels fall off. But I’ll be the little CR-V that could. All because of the spark.
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Ink Spots Blog: 8/15/13
Yesterday was a crappy day. Why? The news was particularly grim — Egypt melting down and the news of Abigail Grace Bonner’s body being found just kind of sucked the wind out of me. Add to it a plane crash and you had the recipe for a rather depressing gumbo of grief. I felt like my seawall was starting to crack in the middle of the storm.
It was a day when you are reminded life doesn’t always have a happy ending.
Then to add insult to proverbial mental injury, I read an article about how there are 200 bodies littering the ascent to the peak of Mt. Everest. Because of the thin air, it is nearly impossible to remove them and the cold temperatures preserve them. They are ghoulish mileposts for other climbers. The photos of the brightly dressed mummies were reminder that dreams do sometimes fail. And when they do, they fail spectacularly.
But this morning, the sun came up. Cool air covered the land. October temporarily took over for its brutal brother August. Hope crept back into my heart.
Yes, life is brutal. Yes, dreams die. But that doesn’t mean you don’t try. You keep fighting until your moment comes. No one promised it would be easy. And to be honest, I don’t want that anyway. When you stand on the top of Everest, you know you took the risk and succeeded.
That’s what life is all about.
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SHORT STORY: Son of a Beach
Gray clouds hang over the brown Mississippi Sound, selfishly hiding sunken treasures never to be found.
Occasionally the murky water gives up a prize: A button, a washer or some other surprise.
The killer ocean swept away his life during it’s prime; now she gave it back, one piece at a time.
A gull squawked at the lone man standing on the Biloxi Beach. He was tall, thin, slightly balding and holding a leather journal. He finished writing and carefully put it in a pocket in his apron. It was time go to work. He crossed Highway 90 and entered the greasy waffle restaurant.
“Table four needs to be bused. Pronto.”
“Good morning to you, too, Donna Ray.” Gary Drucker punched the clock and picked up his plastic tub.
Biloxi’s Waffle Barn #3 sprang up from the sand like a water-logged phoenix after Katrina. Gary had once joked that the storm was the first time the restaurant’s floor had been cleaned. People didn’t joke about Katrina much. But Gary did. He had earned the right the hard way.
“Hurry up, boy. We done got customers waiting.”
Donna Ray’s shrill voice was like cat claws on a chalk board. She was the cashier/hostess/manager/pain-in-the-butt extraordinaire of Waffle Barn #3. And while she claimed to be from somewhere up north, Gary was convinced she had flown in straight from Hades. Donna Ray was a large woman who smelled vaguely like cats. And she was grumpy. Very grumpy. She was just a big bag of chuckles.
“Yes, ma’am.”
Gary was forty-five and a busboy. Not exactly how he had planned his life to turn out. He looked back across highway 90 out at the Mississippi Sound. The sea had taken everything from him, including his sanity. So now he worked odd jobs up and down the Mississippi Gulf Coast until it washed ashore.
He looked at the change on the table. He saw all the presidents he wanted to see — but only on coins and not paper. Waffle Barn wasn’t the place to get rich. In the distance, he could see the fool’s gold known as Seaside Casino. Maybe someday he could get a job waiting tables at Johnny Steak’s House of Meat. He’d be rolling in the big bucks. If only he could work at the House of Meat.
House of Meat. Who the hell named a restaurant “House of Meat?” It really sounded like dirty in a 6th grade joke. As opposed to the wholesomeness of “Waffle Barn.” “Excuse me ma’am, would you like to join me and eat at the House of Meat?”
Gary laughed at his own joke.
Waffle Barns had popped back up after Katrina like mushrooms. There was a small fortune to be made in feeding relief workers who had descended on the coast like helpful locusts. But now the rebuilding had stalled and the workers had gone away. Quaint middle-class residents had gone the way of barge-based casinos. The insurance was too high for anyone to rebuild — unless you could afford a disposable house. Gary couldn’t do that. His family’s home had washed up down the beach. His wife nearby. Waffle Barn #3 wasn’t far from where he found her. It’s why he couldn’t leave.
Waffle Barn # 3 was his purgatory. Gary had sins to be forgiven.
He plopped the dirty dishes into the bucket. They never should have stayed. “The house survived Camille,” he remembered telling his wife Judy. He could hear his words every night in his nightmares. The house HAD survived Camille. But Katrina wasn’t Camille. He also had nightmares of the surge crashing through the front windows. And of the house collapsing while they were in the attic. He heard her screams for help. He saw Judy’s blue face. He had killed her.
Gary’s eyes burned. Must have gotten something in them. Or something.
“Hurry up over there. You got molasses in your veins?”
Gary wanted to tell Jabba’s twin sister to shut up. But just he smiled and said, “yes, ma’am.” Being polite was a Southern thing. Being polite meant he got to keep this job.
Off in the distance, a small Cessna tugged a banner for Crazy Carl’s Souvenir Emporium. Crazy Carl and his Emporium were institutions along the Gulf Coast. It was an empire of imported Chinese knickknacks built on a foundation of family booze money. Carl’s daddy had bootlegged and gambled during the Coast’s wild years. Before Camille. Carl took the trust fund left to him and invested it in tacky souvenirs.
Carl was also Gary’s older brother. The two didn’t talk much. After 45 years, they had just run out of things to say. The last thing Carl had said to him was, “You killed her, you know.” Carl still was missing his two front teeth.
“You ought to ask your brother for a job.” Donna Ray noticed the plane’s banner and threw her unwanted opinion in. It lay on the floor, stinking like a dog turd.
Gary shivered at the thought. He’d rather swallow more sea water than his pride.
At table #5 sat a blond that looked vaguely familiar.
“Gina?” Gary said with a smile. “What are you doing home? And how are you doing? I lost track of you after you got laid off.””
Gina was a reporter for The New York Times. She had profiled Gary when she was a reporter for the local paper The Sun Herald.
“Gary, is that you? Her voice sounded genuinely excited. “I’m here to do a piece on the Katrina anniversary. I took a job in Memphis and then the Times hired me. I’m surviving. You know how the newspaper business is these days. You live day to day.”
Gary understood. He had been doing that since the storm.
“I want to show you something,” Gary blurted out. Living alone meant he didn’t talk to many people — only his cat Gulfport. And Gulfport wasn’t much of a conversationalist.” Gary reached into his apron pocket and pulled out a black leather notebook.
Gina took the book and said, “What’s this?”
Gary said, “Open it and read.”
Inside were the amazingly descriptive poems and stories based on Gary’s daily walks on the beach. It was a eight-year journal on one man’s odyssey back from the brink.
“These are amazing. Mind if we publish a few of these? I want to write a story based on your journey. These could really help others who are going through what you’re going through. Lord knows many in New York and New Jersey could appreciate your journey. Sandy kicked them in the teeth pretty hard, too.”
Gary thought about it for a moment. And then said, “If it helps, sure.” It was his moment. He felt at peace.
The New York Times Magazine ran a feature on him and his poems. Soon he was on talk shows and reading his poems in New York — When Donna Ray would give him the time off.
Random House published a compilation of them that was illustrated by famous water colorist Wyatt Waters. “Son of a Beach: Tales From the Eye of the Storm” quickly became a New York Times Best Seller. He charmed Jay Leno and David Letterman and the rest of the country. Critics said his writing was funny, brutal and honest. There was something about his candor. He had stared the Devil in the face and the Devil had blinked. People needed to hear his story. Gary soon had enough money to quit Waffle Barn #3.
But he didn’t.
He continued to bus tables. He stayed in Purgatory by choice. He decided to stay there to help others out of it.
He spent all his free time writing and working as a counselor at the local hospital. And petting Gulfport and heckling Donna Ray. It was a good life. A simple one. He grew where he was planted.
One day as he was walking down the beach, he noticed something glimmer. He bent over, brushed the sand away. It was Judy’s locket. The ocean had returned a hostage. The ocean released his sanity.
Gary had paid for his sin. Now he was busy helping recover from theirs.
The killer ocean swept away his life during it’s prime; now she gave it back, one piece at a time.
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