Ownership 101

In the spirit of Lent, I sat down and thought about all of my problems. And then I came to the realization that every single one of them is my fault. Yup. Every. Single. One. Of. Them. This is a more brutal form of the serenity prayer. I am sitting here right now because of all of the choices I’ve made. Yes, there have been situations beyond my control. But if they are a problem, I needed to react to them better.
I own them.
No, I am not being hard on myself. My life is really really good and I am also working hard on realizing that, too. But what I have been doing is basically fumigating any victim mentality out of my brain. I am not a victim in anyway. Yes, there have been some things that I wished were different. But they shaped me into who I am. That’s what I have to work with. My job, from here on out, is to own the present and own who I am. If I want to get better, I need to decide what “better” is and start working towards it. Otherwise, I am just wishing — or worse, complaining.
If feels good to complain. Sometimes, I guess it is therapeutic. But it is also a colossal waste of energy. And I only have so much of that.
It’s my fault. It’s also my choice how to deal with it. If you believe in free will, which I do, use it to heal yourself, one day at a time. Own the situation you are in and change it.