CARTOON: Farewell to Bert Case

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All Because the Gift of Three Boys

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My oldest and youngest climb a hill in Vicksburg, Mississippi.

I am probably the most unlikely parent in the world. As a third child, I had never been around a baby until my oldest son was born — and boy did it show. I was terrified. Terrified that somehow I’d break him. But I soon learned, the quickest way to break a child is to keep your distance.

My hidden terror annoyed my wife, too.  None of my boys (I have three of them now) ever slept as babies. Sleep deprivation and the perception that I wasn’t helping out enough was like pouring sand in the crankcase of our marriage. It’s one of the few things I wish I could do over — I’d be a more hands on father in the early years.  It’s one of my deepest regrets.

Of course, I had melanoma when my son was one. I freaked out and that caused a wave of anxiety that I can’t even explain today. How could I bring a  child into this world and then potentially leave him?  Like a rock in a tumbler, that experience polished off my rough edges. By the time my second son came along, I was much more comfortable as a father.

By the time my third son was born, I thought I knew what I was doing. But Son #3 threw us a curve ball. He has never done things the way he is “supposed” to do them.  One of the greatest joys of my life is watching him prove people much smarter than me wrong.  He keeps us on our toes and is our little miracle. I joke that every 46-year-old needs a six year old. Well, I need him. I can see God in his blue eyes.

Today I am three different fathers for three different boys. All look so much like their mother — and that is a good thing.  Even when she’s mad at me, Amy is beautiful.  I can see God in her blue eyes, too.  I love being their father. I love the challenges the job brings. And as they get older, I love spending more and more time with them. Because really, that’s what it is all about, right? Time. Time is the oil that permeates their life’s canvas.

I see my oldest son grow more handsome by the day. He’s smart, thoughtful and at times funny with a very dry sense of humor. I have already seen him excel beyond me in math. He shows signs of being a great writer.  And his discipline has made him a good student and musician.

My second son amazes me with his creativity. He’s brilliant and has the sharpest sense of humor I have ever encountered. He’s a natural musician and a natural story teller. He sometimes lacks focus (much like his father) but still manages to be exceptional. Like his brother, he’s a good student.

My third son fascinates me daily. He sees the world differently than I do and at times shows signs of brilliance. He’s stubborn and challenging and makes me a better man.  He’s incredibly loving. I live for him and cheer him on when he proves his doubters wrong. And he does that often. Of the three, he looks the most like his mother. He’s a beautiful child who will grow up to be a handsome man.

There is a golden thread that runs through all three boys: Their mom.  No matter what, I will never doubt her brilliance as a mother.  She feeds them, studies with them, wrestles with them, disciplines them and is always there for them. I knew she had the “right stuff” before we even got married. I knew she would be able to shape a child.  She’s a builder of men. And my sons are living proof.

Parenthood is a gift.  It cured me of terminal selfishness.  Like comedian Craig Ferguson wisely said, “I think when you become a parent you go from being a star in the movie of your own life to the supporting player in the movie of someone else’s.”   I’m proud to be in the my sons’ movies. It has forever changed how I see the world for the better.

I’m flawed as a father. But I’m a better man for it. All because of the gift of three boys.

 

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Fit2Fat2Fit Blog: Day 14

IMG_9370-595x236Ever wanted to walk like R2-D2? Ever wanted to push a towel across a gym floor? How about walking on a treadmill with a 15% grade? And then after that doing a tough core workout? I bet you always wanted to do inch-worms and then frog leaps. How about jumping rope, pushups, toe-taps and some weightlifting? If you’re a fan of your arms falling off, you would have LOVED today’s PLS workout.

The R2-D2 walking part was brought to you by an exercise called “Chips and Salsa.” Basically, you put your feet on a chips and salsa plate and drag yourself down the basketball court with your hands. It sounds hard and it’s even harder than it sounds. (Note, felt pads have been placed on the bottom of the plate to make it actually slide on the court.) I did it twice.

We pushed towels in an interesting series of exercises that included sprints, jump roping and 20 pushups. The pushups were the hardest. Because after doing inchworms, Chips and Salsa and pushing towels, my arms were toast. I like toast. Not sure I want my arms to be toast, though.

It was tough day.

But I did it. And I did it well.

I can’t tell you the sense of satisfaction you get when conquer a tough challenge. Knowing I am getting stronger, faster and better is a huge confidence builder.

I guess it is why I get up at 3:45 in the morning to go workout. I start the day with a victory. Which is the most amazing way to start my day.

 

 

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SHORT STORY: Snow Angels

200018052-001The forecast had called for snow.  But it was the South and snow forecasts were notoriously wrong.  Lizzie McDonald knew that if the TV weatherman said snow, it would be sunny.   Atlanta snow was fickle. Surely it wouldn’t snow today. Surely.

Those in leadership apparently agreed with her. The governor and the mayor of Atlanta were at an event at the Ritz Carlton. The superintendent of her son’s school had run the buses in the morning.  They couldn’t be wrong. Because they had a direct line to the National Weather Service.

But the National Weather Service HAD called for two inches of snow. And around noon, the flakes fell furiously, fulfilling the meteorologists’ frozen prophecy.

Her son’s school, trying to call it a full day, held out as long as they could. All the schools did. And all at once, they released their students. Like they were heeding the quarry whistle on the Flintstones’, everyone in Atlanta poured onto the interstates at once.

You could almost hear the whole Metro area grind to a halt.

Most snows in Atlanta fall when it’s near freezing — thus, the roads are usually warm and the snow slushy. Not this storm. A Polar Vortex gripped Hotlanta, chilling it and its infrastructure to the bone.  The flakes that did fall immediately stuck. And what few sand and salt trucks existed couldn’t keep up with the numerous icy roadways and bridges.  This was Atlanta after all, not Buffalo. People in the South didn’t do snow. As the people jammed the freeway, dangerous ice began to accumulate.

Lizzie watched the disaster unfold and was trapped. She was at the intersection of I-75 and I-285 and could see the Weather Channel’s HQ. She laughed nervously at the irony. They called this storm Leon. She called it Lucifer.

A car spun in front of her, rotating around twice and then slamming into a bridge support. She watched its driver hit his head, causing the side glass to shatter. An 18-wheeler on the other side slid and pushed 10 cars into each other.

As the flakes fell, her heart rate rose. She was trapped — and her son was 15 miles away.

Lizzie eyed her fuel gauge. 1/4 of a tank. She cursed under her breath. She never traveled with a coat or enough gas. Gas was expensive — especially for a single mother who worked as an assistant at a law firm. All she had was her son Thomas. She called the school in a panic.  Finally a secretary answered. Yes, her son was safe. Yes, they would watch him along with the other students.  No, he did not get out on the bus like some of the other kids. Those kids were trapped.

It was a shared miserable experience with thousands of Metro Atlantans.  She looked over at the man in the Porsche next to her. He was screaming and hitting his steering wheel as hard as he could. While Lizzie understood how he felt, she knew it would do him no good.

Mother Nature was trying to outdo General Sherman’s wrath. Atlanta was a disaster — America’s 9th largest city now looked like a frozen used car lot.  It resembled a pivotal scene from AMC Zombie show The Walking Dead.

Lizzie prayed quietly for rescue.  She inched forward again, creeping slowly toward her final destination. She had to make it. Seconds turned into minutes turned into hours. She made it to the South Loop. Then she saw the Big Chicken in the distance. Another car slid off into the ditch.  Forget the 1996 Summer Olympics — Atlanta was now holding it’s own twisted version of the Winter Olympics. And only auto body shops were going to get the gold.

Finally she got to the Chastain Road exit. Nine hours had passed, and darkness blanketed the apocalyptic scene.  She turned right and crawled over the bridge. Finally, her wheels begin to futilely spin. She slid her car over to the side of the road and killed the engine. She tightened her coat and felt the burn as her high heels sank into the snow.  She must get to Thomas. One frozen step after another — she would get there. She would make it. She felt the skin on her feet burn. Frostbite was starting to eat at her. But her determination burned and melted the pain away. She would make it. She would make it. She WOULD make it.

One mile down the road, she slipped, causing her to tumble onto the ice.  Her head hit the ground, causing a gash on her forehead. She lay crumpled and felt the cold grip her like death. As her head throbbed in pain, she saw her father come up to her — a man who had died five years ago.

“Are you an angel?”

As she faded into blackness, her father turned into a rider on a four-wheeler.  The tall, slender man picked the woman off the ground and hoisted her on his shoulder. He propped her on his four wheeler and gave her a sip of hot chocolate.  “It’ll be OK, ma’am. It’ll be OK.” He looked down at her bloody feet as he wrapped her in a blanket.  The poor woman must be in great pain.

“To the elementary school,” she mumbled. “take me to the elementary school…” She faded in and out. “Thomas. Must be with Thomas.”

The man put her in front of him on the four-wheeler and drove slowly the final few miles, weaving in and out of stalled cars.  He helped her to the school’s front door.

At 1o p.m., a sleepy kindergarten teacher let Lizzie in. “Thomas,” she said as she handed over her ID. The teacher smiled and set out to make the reunion happen.

As Lizzie held her son, she turned around to find her angel. But there no one was there. And much to her surprise, there was only one set of footprints in the snow leading up to the front door.

So many good things had happened that night:

A stranger brought formula to family in the car with the infant.

A couple let the a family sleep in their den.

A drugstore  took in the travelers.

A grocery store that allowed drivers in.

A fast-food restaurant fed the people trapped in their cars.

And a man on the four-wheeler rescued a mother trying to reach her child.

Because for one frozen night, Atlanta, not Los Angeles, became the city of angels.

 

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Fit2Fat2Fit Blog: Day 13

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“I’m watching you. Always watching you.” Paul Lacoste.

As I rounded the corner by the racquetball courts, my arms burned from holding the 25-lb. weight in front of my chest. It was the third lap and I was tired. Up ahead, behind a support pole, I could see someone trying to hide.  It looked like Mr. Incredible tucked behind a drinking straw.

“I’m watching you,” Paul Lacoste boomed. “I’m always watching you.”

I guess he wanted to make sure I wasn’t cheating.  I wasn’t.  Because after five times of doing PLS training,I’ve figured out one thing out:

If I cheat, I only cheat myself.

I know, I know, that sounds like something your parents would say.  But it’s the Gospel truth. You only get out of PLS what you put into it.

Yes, there were times I wanted to hold the plate in a more comfortable way.  But I didn’t.  I pushed and my arms burned. Because I know that the next time it’ll be a little bit easier.  This is a mental exercise as well as a physical. When my mind says, “You can’t do it,” I have to scream back at it, “BS!”

Today was a slim day due to yesterday’s ice and snow. The roads still had patches of ice and JSU was closed until noon. So that must have thrown  a few folks off because the crowd was slim.  But that’s OK. The ones who made it had a good workout — 80% of success is just showing up, you know.  We did Leonard’s circuit drill again. I’m still enjoying my new-found ability to jump rope, so I really like his station.  We then went straight to ladder drills (for faster footwork) and then to Wayne where we did a modified T-drill that involved push-ups, burpees and squats. (And running.) Wayne is trying to teach us the art of recovery — which is worthy of a blog in itself. We then ran the Gauntlet while holding the iron plate. After the Gauntlet, we did a spin class with Marika. It was fun (I used to ride a road bike and have literally ridden around Vermont) We finished up in the weight room.

I smiled at Paul as I left. Because I know he is watching me. But so am I. And that’s when the gift of self discipline begins.

 

 

 

 

 

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Cartoon: State of the Union

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Cartoon: Do you Miss Me Yet?

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Fit2Fat2Fit Blog: Day 12

A scene from my 10.5-mile run on Sunday.

A scene from my 10.5-mile run on Sunday.

Missed last Friday. Had to go to a friend’s mom’s funeral. Did 900 miles of driving in about 24 hours. That was tiring in its own right. Then I ran 10.5 miles Sunday and a fast 2.5 on Monday.

I was sore today. I was tired today. Snow was incoming.

I worked out anyway.

Paul was in Paul mode and was pushing everyone hard today.  He wasn’t going to put up with any slacking and let us know exactly what he thought of slackers. We did our typical six stations. First was circuit (I liked the jump roping best). Then it got tough. We burned our arms out doing various types of pushups. In between, we ran sprints. Then we did an inchworm, bear crawl, pushup combo.  We were on the floor a lot. It was the first time I wanted to hit my knees.

But I pushed through it.

The next station was shuffle/sprint/shuffle. Paul was making sure we did exactly what we were supposed to be doing.

It reminds me of our old football drills.  There is an importance of making good mental decisions when you are exhausted. Of all the things I do at PLS, that’s the one that is the most useful in the real work.  I’m tired most of the time.  You have to learn how to think when you are tired. Period.

From there, we went to the treadmill and ran. And then we ended in the weight room.

It was a hard day and I’m tired. I walked around Jackson this morning in the snow taking photos. But I’m grateful for the PLS training.

It’s getting me to the next level.

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Southern Snow

I got to work at 6:30 this morning as the snow started really accumulating. Put on my hoodie and went for a brief walk around Jackson. Here are a few photos of our dusting of snow.

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