Class Notes: September 15, 2015

TUESDAY IS TEST DAY! Remember —  I don’t give makeups. You write a term paper on the impact of Social Media if you miss tomorrow. (it’s in the syllabus).  If you studied last Thursday’s post, you’ll do fine on the test. The test is 25 questions. Be on time.

And be thinking about our friends at Delta State.

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The Adventures of an Awkward Athlete: Chapter 6 — Crab Crawls

the-hikers-workout-crabIf you don’t know what a crab crawl is, I really can’t show you. I look like a dog rubbing his butt on the carpet when I crab crawl. Thanks to really, really, really messed up shoulders, it’s my weakest exercise. Of course, I had to do it 40 yards this morning.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. But it does make you thankful it’s dark at that time of morning.

This weekend, I ran 12 miles. In a row. And nothing was chasing me. Well, yes, a few things were chasing me: Heart disease, diabetes, depression, some types of cancer — you get the point. I got up at 5:30 and hit the trail on Saturday. The cool weather was a gift after a brutal summer. I still managed to sweat a few buckets. I looked like I had been for a swim, not a run.

I title this series of blogs “The Advertures of an Awkward Athlete” because I am not pretty when I work out. I don’t look good in my outfits. My hair is a mess and I look like a Clydesdale. I probably don’t smell good, either. I really don’t care. I bumble, stumble and fumble. But I get out there.

The statistics are there in black and white. And the obituary page confirms them. I’m at an age where males like me just drop dead from heart attacks. I’ve had cancer once (melanoma) and don’t want it again. I am on the board of the Diabetes Foundation of Mississippi and really don’t want to play around with Type 2 Diabetes. I don’t want to be a statistic.

So I crab crawl. I rub my butt across the turf and struggle. I run, I struggle and I get my heart rate elevated for at least an hour a day. Why? I do it for my boys. They need a dad in their life. And I’m proud to say, they are learning to love exercise, too.

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When people ask me if my kids can draw, I say…

People ask me if my kids draw. They don’t. They are amazingly talented young men — but not with my talent. And I couldn’t be more proud. Why? Because I am watching them chase their passions with guts and energy. And I’m watching them succeed. Oh, they’re all very creative. They just haven’t picked up a pencil. With them, it’s about music, engineering, math, writing, athletics and comedy. I couldn’t be more proud. Because it ain’t about me. I have my talent and I’ll continue to chase it. But part of my mission is to make sure my boys find theirs. That’s what being a parent is truly about.

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Finding the pathway to a dream

We had our chairs in a circle, almost like they were Old West Wagons circled for our protection. Tuesday I had lectured from the podium — and I’ll admit, I bored myself. So today, I thought I’d try something different. I told my students they’d be teaching my class today.

That’s not what happened. But like good Social Media, it became a discussion. We talked about the information that will be on Tuesday’s test. And as we talked, it happened — it was a breakthrough of sorts.

I realized my students were me 24 years ago.

They’re Mass Comm students. Each has their own dream — one wants to be a PR expert. One a television performer. One a radio host. One wants to make documentary films. But what we all have in common is that crazy dream –– That gnawing itch that keeps us from being happy in a 9 to 5 job. I told them that at times I envied my friends who are doctors or accountants. Not because what they do is easy (I couldn’t do it) but because their (very difficult) path was laid out for them.

Our path is more nebulous.

My dream was a job where there were less than 200 positions in the country. Now, I probably could count the number of full-time editorial cartoonists on my digits. There was no path for me to follow. It was trial and lots of errors. I fumbled and stumbled. That’s why I worked as a janitor. But I moved and enjoyed great experiences. That’s why I worked in Texas and California.

But like a compass always finds North, I found my dream. And l like I told my students today, that dream is ethereal and always changing. People say you must always keep learning. I learned that you also much always be changing. And it has changed me for the better.

Chasing a dream will do that. And as their professor, I vow to help them find their path like I did so many years ago.

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The Adventures of an Awkward Athlete: Chapter 5 — Accountability

It was dark and rainy this morning, but I got my sleepy butt up and went and worked out. Why? Not only did I know someone would call me on my laziness, I also would have been pissed at myself for the rest of the day for sleeping in. But I’ve moved past outside accountability. Now, I answer to myself.

And I am a massive pain in the rear.

Speaking of pain in the rear, we worked really, really hard today. Coach Clark did his Clarkapalooza (what I call his solo beatdown). I think everyone’s favorite was the snake drill. I moved fast on it — because somewhere along the way I figured out if you really push it, you get done sooner. It’s funny what motivates you. We also did some Yoga with Coach Neil and an Indian Run. Bottom line? It was a good way to end a tough week.

We also weighed in. And guess what? Clydesdale here lost three pounds. My goal? 195 lbs. I have a long way to go before I get there (20 lbs.) but with the Mississippi Blues Marathon coming in 121 days, I had better get busy and start losing. At least I am headed in the right direction.

You ask, “Marshall, you look thin. Why do you want to lose 20 more pounds?”

Hauling ass is not a good thing when you are running a marathon. The less ass you have, the less you have to haul.

And I’ll look better in a two-piece. I’m not accountable for that image burned in your brain, though.

Have a great day. Eat healthy and get moving!

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Class Notes: Thursday, September 9, 2015 — Review

The mission of this class is to study the world of social media, to build a strong personal brand, to learn to use the different platforms effectively and to avoid ethical disasters that can instantly blow up the strongest brands. We’ve studied how social media has affected a shooting, getting information out about a potential active shooter and politics. We’ve also began to read the book Platform by Michael Hyatt. We’re learning that the true secret to building an effective social media presence is to have amazing content and engagement.

 

Class notes.

  • WDBJ Murders. In old media environment: Local audience would have seen live shot. Newspapers might have run a photo of a screen shot. Radio would have had a report with maybe sounds of the gunshots. Nightly news might have run small clip of the interview before the shooting but editors would have made sure it wasn’t graphic. (Pearl Harbor example – photos of ships exploding were shown but bodies weren’t)
  • With the birth of cable news 24-hour news cycle, we would have gotten 24 hours of wall-to-wall coverage of the shooting, but would have had editors and producers acting as gatekeepers. Once again, we would not have seen the actual shooting.
  • Now with Social Media, we receive news nearly instantaneously with no filters or gatekeeper. Pictures of the murderer are spread virally. Police use Social Media to bypass media and get information out quicker. But there is a dark side:
  • Rumors and false information is spread. Also, thanks to autoplay, you are subject to seeing graphic content.
  • Not only did we see a replay of the shooting from the slain cameraman’s perspective, we also saw the shooting from a GoPro camera worn by the gunman.
  • The murderer himself set up Facebook and Twitter accounts to spread a video of him killing the reporter and cameraman and to tell “his side of the story.”
  • There is instantaneous commentary mixed in with straight news.
  • Vester “Bryce Williams” Flanagan used social media, new technology and traditional media storytelling skills to broadcast the murder of two former coworkers and attempt to tell his side of the story. Yet even his plan was behind the times. He could have used Periscope or Instagram to get his video out quicker.

 

  • Today’s news cycle is instantaneous – which is good and bad. You get information when you want it immediately. But there is no reflection and sometimes no editing.

 

  • We saw that with the “Active Shooter alert at Mississippi State University.”

 

  • Official “Maroon Alert” sent out “Active Shooter” and “Shelter in place” alerts via text and social media as soon as the threat was known.

 

  • Students and staff described what they were seeing through Tweets, Instagram and Snapchat.

 

  • First pictures of the suspect being apprehended were sent via Twitter.

 

  • Social media not only allowed people on campus to be informed but also allowed parents and friends worldwide to know what was going on.

 

  • Local traditional media was staying informed via social media reports, too, as well as doing live reporting.

 

  • On the negative side, misinformation, panic and rumors were spread unnecessarily. For example Reports of shots were reported when there were none.

 

  • Bottom line: While social media is a powerful way to be informed, you have to consider the source.

 

  • “It’s not just about having a big social media presence. It’s about engagement with your followers, fans and customers.

 

  • You have a legion of like-minded followers. But in that school of fans, you will also have trolls.

 

  • A social media platform is now a company or person’s first point of contact for all interactions.

 

  • People are motivated to share great experiences, as well as complaints, suggestions, questions or even cordial jokes — and more often than not, expect a reply or acknowledgment.” People want to feel important.

 

  • “A recent studyby Goldman Sachs revealed that businesses who use social media well are 34% more likely to be trusted by young, working-aged people.”

 

  • “Stop thinking of your social channels as a campaign and start appreciating the power of the constant conversation — harness and build authentic, lasting influence. “

 

  • “If you’ve ever received a public reply to one of your Tweets or Facebook messages on an official brand or company profile, you remember the “warm fuzzy” feeling of being publicly acknowledged. That builds loyalty.

 

  • “For more and more consumers, an official Facebook page, Twitter or Instagram handle has become the go-to point of contact for any and all customer-service experiences.”

 

  • “Social media is no longer “the new big thing” — it’s a set of tools to help you move toward your desired goals in sales, marketing, PR and brand awareness. Decide which growth-point is most vital for your business now and adjust your strategy accordingly; increasing sales, growing awareness, reaching new audiences and minimizing negative experiences are important, but separate, goals.”

 

  • The strongest relationships developed via social media begin through interaction based on shared interests, values or experiences. Without the same give-and-take you’d engage in face-to-face it’s nearly impossible to create and maintain lasting rapport.”

 

  • “The 80/20 rule outlinedby Entrepreneur can keep your business or brand’s reputation free from the crass, commercial-minded misstep of just shilling for a quick buck. Social media is an arena best used for generating and expanding awareness, adding broader value through conversation and building relationships with like-minded people who will become clients, customers or advocates. Pushing a product or service as a value-add within a conversation, or in the context of news, helps avoid being labeled a spammer — or worse, being mocked.”

 

 

  • Bold comments are the author’s. Regular-type comments are mine.

 

 

  • Don’t Reply To Everyone. If for no other reason, it makes you look thin skinned if you jump at every bit of criticism. But answer questions and solve problems.

 

  • Don’t Respond to Trolls Learn to spot trolls. Usually they have few followers and live to insult and feed off your responses. Never punch down and don’t give them your platform.

 

  • Don’t React Right Away. Don’t wait a week, but you can take a few moments to reflect. Or call a lawyer. ;-)

 

  • Reddit is Not for the Weak The anonymous culture of message boards will eat you alive. Comment sections on news stories are also particularly rough.

 

  • Don’t Insult People It’s tempting. But don’t do it. You don’t want to crawl into the ditch with people who have nothing else better to do than insult total strangers. It also tears at your brand.

 

  • Learn When To Walk Away I usually give people one response. If they choose to go on, that’s their time they are burning.

 

  • Update: 7. Don’t lie George Washington had this one. If you lie, the Internet will bust you and it will dig your hole deeper.

 

  • How Social Media is ruining politics. From Politico

 

 

  • “Twice before in the last hundred yearsa new medium has transformed elections.

 

  • “In the 1920s, radio disembodied candidates, reducing them to voices. It also made national campaigns far more intimate.” Franklin Roosevelt’s Fireside chats for example.

 

  • “In the 1960s, television gave candidates their bodies back, at least in two dimensions.” Nixon v. Kennedy Presidential debates. People listening on radio thought Richard M. Nixon won. People watching on TV, seeing a young and vigorous John F. Kennedy gave the debate to him. Ronald Reagan and Bill Clinton perfected the form.

 

  • “Today, with the public looking to smartphones for news and entertainment, we seem to be at the start of the third big technological makeover of modern electioneering. The presidential campaign is becoming just another social-media stream.”

 

  • “What’s important now is not so much image as personality. But, as the Trump phenomenon reveals, it’s only a particular kind of personality that works—one that’s big enough to grab the attention of the perpetually distracted but small enough to fit neatly into a thousand tiny media containers.”

 

  • “President Obama revolutionized the use of Social Media in 2008.”

 

  • Social media favors the bitty over the meaty, the cutting over the considered. It also prizes emotionalism over reason. The more visceral the message, the more quickly it circulates and the longer it holds the darting public eye. In something of a return to the pre-radio days, the fiery populist now seems more desirable, more worthy of attention, than the cool wonk.”

 

But even by one recent estimate from Borrell Associates, 9.5 percent of political media budgets could go towards digital media — a total of $1 billion.”

 

 

 

From Platform by Michael Hyatt. Chapter One: Create a Compelling Product (Content).

 

  • There are two critical parts to the success equation: A compelling product (the what) and a significant platform (the who). We will study the different platforms later. But right now, let’s focus on content – your product. Without compelling content, you won’t have an audience, a tribe or a platform.
  • If you don’t have a compelling product, it doesn’t matter how good you are at Social Media.
  • David Ogilvy (a marketing and advertising guru) “Great marketing only makes a bad product fail faster.”
  • “It’s the product stupid.” Product is the key.
  • Create Products you Would Personally Use. Write about something you are passionate about and provide social media content that you would find interesting. Produce content that makes a difference in people’s lives.
  • Create Products that solve problems in unexpected ways.

You are Not So Smart — A blog by David McRaney From Hattiesburg. Describes ways your brain is deluding you. http://youarenotsosmart.com

Think “what would make this really cool?”

  • Create products that exceed your customer’s expectations. We have become content with mediocrity. We aim low and execute even lower. If you want to create a social media platform, you have to have passion.

 

 

Chapter Two: Bake in the Wow.

  • Blake Mycoskie: Created TOMS Shoes after a trip to Argentina (and saw kids without shoes.) For every pair of shoes sold, TOMS matches it – one for one –with a pair of new shoes given to a kid sin need. By Sept. 10, TOMS and given away one million pairs of shoes.  Find a need and fill it. Be original. Be special. But be yourself.
  • Must be able recognize what “Wow” is. Birth of a kid. First kiss. Flying for the first time.
  • Each wow experience has some combination of the following ten elements: 1. Surprise. 2. Anticipation. (almost as good was the experience itself) 3. Resonance (touches the heart) 4. Transcendence (Connects you to something transcendent – you experience purpose, meaning or even God.) 5. Clarity. Helps see things clearer. 6. Presence – You are in the moment. 7. Universality. Nearly universal in their amazingness. Like the Grand Canyon, 8. Evangelism. Makes people become unpaid evangilists. (Facebook Likes or shares, for example. Twitter RT’s 9. Longevity. The experience never fades. 10. Privilege. You feel honored to share it.

 

Chapter Three: Platform Michael Hyatt

Exceed audience expectations. Create content to meet your audience’s expectations and needs. Uses the example of Spiderman:Turn off the Dark — a show on Broadway.

  • What is the product or experience you want to created or transform into a wow?
  • How will the customer feel about the experience?
  • What specific expeditions does the typical customer bring to this experience?
  • What does failing to meet those expectations look like?

What does meeting them look like?

 

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The Adventures of an Awkward Athlete: Chapter 5 — Freedom

 

There’s plenty of talk about freedom on my social interwebs. People are mightily concerned that Group A or Group B is out to steal their freedom. But the one thief that never gets much mention is the thief that looks you in the mirror when you brush your teeth. I know. I came face to face with that thief this morning. He tried to pin me down and keep me in bed when my alarm went off at 3:49.

That thief, of course, is me.

Yesterday, someone said, “I wish I was in shape.”

I said, “You can be if you chose to be.”

I know first hand. Three years ago, I weighed 50 lbs. more than I do right now. I was winded when I walked and was the poster child for a heart attack. My waist was 41 inches and my muscles atrophied.

And you want to know the really sad thing? I had run a marathon just a year before.

I had gone from 195 lbs. to 248 lbs. in 12 months. Why? I gave up mastery of myself.

No, I am not talking about the Seinfeld “Master of My Domain” — thats a blog I will never write. I’m talking about how to achieve true freedom: Self discipline.

You are the sum of your choices. If you eat poorly, make bad health decisions and are disorganized, you will be a slave to your bad habits. If you only choose what makes you feel good, you won’t have the training when things get really bad.

Today’s workout was a beast. And I’m exhausted. But I got up and pushed myself. I made a choice that will make me healthier.

I overcame the person who wanted to steal that from me. I overcame myself.

That’s true freedom.

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The Adventures of an Awkward Athlete: Chapter 4

 

It you came up and poked me in the tit right this moment, I’d crumple to the ground. I’m sore. Very sore. As I like to tell people, I am doing acid — lactic acid. Doing a bootcamp at 5 a.m. will do that to you. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I like to look for meaning in strange places. I usually get some pretty hefty life lessons out of my morning workouts. Our coach, Paul Lacoste, likes to say “it’s not where you start, it’s where you finish.” Or as Paul Thorn says, “Everyone looks good at the starting line.” For me, this morning was about the importance of putting in the effort. To make the most out of my time on the field.

I’ve done the PLS bootcamp 10 times. When I push myself hard, I see amazing results. When I cut corners, not so much.

See the metaphor? It’s not just a workout routine where effort matters. It’s your job. Your marriage. Your health. Your kids. Your friends. Your life.

You get out of life what you put in it.

Whatever you do, throw your heart into it. And you will be amazed at what you receive in return.

I got to run. Not as in “to run.” I need to go teach a class. I had this same conversation with my son this morning. I’ll have it with my students, too.

You get out of life what you put in it.

Just don’t poke me in the tit.

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Class Notes: Tuesday, September 8, 2015

Did the NFL diss Tom Brady on Social Media?  from USA Today

“Innocent oversight or direct shot? You be the judge.

On Sunday night, the NFL’s official Twitter account posted a photo about possible quarterbacks who could carry their team to Super Bowl 50 this season.”

Guess who was left off.

WWE star Kevin Owens is destroying John Cena fans on Twitter  Owens doesn’t just run smack in the ring. He also does it using Social Media.

How Social Media is changing elections.

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How Social Media is ruining politics.  From Politico 

If traditional print and broadcast media required candidates to be nouns—stable, coherent figures—social media pushes them to be verbs, engines of activity.
“Twice before in the last hundred years a new medium has transformed elections. In the 1920s, radio disembodied candidates, reducing them to voices. It also made national campaigns far more intimate. Politicians, used to bellowing at fairgrounds and train depots, found themselves talking to families in their homes. The blustery rhetoric that stirred big, partisan crowds came off as shrill and off-putting when piped into a living room or a kitchen. Gathered around their wireless sets, the public wanted an avuncular statesman, not a firebrand. With Franklin Roosevelt, master of the soothing fireside chat, the new medium found its ideal messenger.

In the 1960s, television gave candidates their bodies back, at least in two dimensions. With its jumpy cuts and pitiless close-ups, TV placed a stress on sound bites, good teeth and an easy manner. Image became everything, as the line between politician and celebrity blurred. John Kennedy was the first successful candidate of the TV era, but it was Ronald Reagan and Bill Clinton who perfected the form. Born actors, they could project a down-home demeanor while also seeming bigger than life.

Today, with the public looking to smartphones for news and entertainment, we seem to be at the start of the third big technological makeover of modern electioneering. The presidential campaign is becoming just another social-media stream, its swift and shallow current intertwining with all the other streams that flow through people’s devices. This shift is changing the way politicians communicate with voters, altering the tone and content of political speech. But it’s doing more than that. It’s changing what the country wants and expects from its would-be leaders.

What’s important now is not so much image as personality. But, as the Trump phenomenon reveals, it’s only a particular kind of personality that works—one that’s big enough to grab the attention of the perpetually distracted but small enough to fit neatly into a thousand tiny media containers. It might best be described as a Snapchat personality. It bursts into focus at regular intervals without ever demanding steady concentration.”

Social media favors the bitty over the meaty, the cutting over the considered. It also prizes emotionalism over reason. The more visceral the message, the more quickly it circulates and the longer it holds the darting public eye. In something of a return to the pre-radio days, the fiery populist now seems more desirable, more worthy of attention, than the cool wonk.

 

Social Media ready to cash in on the 2016 Election 

President Obama revolutionized the use of Social Media in 2008. In fact, it is credited with his overwhelming election and reelection — his ability to reach out to grassroots groups and fundraise on the micro and macro level.  Television is the king of election advertising. But Social Media is quickly rising because of the ability to focus the message to tailored groups.

“While billions will be spent on political advertising over the next year, television remains the prime mover and budgets for digital ads trail traditional media.

But even by one recent estimate from Borrell Associates, 9.5 percent of political media budgets could go towards digital media — a total of $1 billion.”

“Observers predict platforms like Facebook will remain dominant in 2016 with a user base that makes up nearly three quarters of online adults in the United States. And search advertising will remain key.

Insurgent companies like Snapchat though are catching advertising buzz with offerings geared specifically to young people.”

FACEBOOK

One factor makes Facebook distinctive in the race for political ad dollars: its massive audience. The company says it can offer campaigns the ability to reach a broad swath of the American public — around 190 million people in the country use the platform every month — and hone in on particular groups of voters.

Operatives can target ads to potential voters who are interested in certain issues, like gun control or the economy, or based on demographic characteristics.

Facebook has a robust set of data about its users. Users tell the platform about their likes and dislikes and are controversially required by the social network to keep the name they “use in real life.”

GOOGLE

Google has an election team of 10 to 12 who are pushing presidential campaigns to adopt the advertising tools that made the search engine a multi-billion dollar powerhouse.

Those include the three traditional drivers of its advertising revenue — sponsored links in Google searches, YouTube video advertising and so-called programmatic advertising, where the tech company provides ads to millions of online publishers like The New York Times or HGTV that can be targeted for specific content.

TWITTER

Twitter has positioned itself as the destination for campaigns looking to engage in real time — a reputation bolstered by the numerous political operatives and reporters who use the platform obsessively.

The primary vehicle for advertising on Twitter is through promoted tweets, or messages that a campaign or company pays to place in the feeds of certain users. Campaigns can also pay to promote hashtags.

SNAPCHAT

“Snapchat is still in its advertising infancy compared to more established social media companies and 2016 will be the first election cycle to test out political ads on the platform.

Snapchat is pitching its video ads — no longer than 10 seconds — as more analogous to traditional TV and targeted at young voters who have cut the cord.

The company says its ads are geared towards persuading voters to align with a candidate. One criticism is that its videos, unlike some digital ads, do now allow people to click through to reach a candidate’s website where they would be encouraged to donate or volunteer.

Besides video ads, candidates can also purchase filters touting their campaign, which users can add to their photos and videos. The company recently hired Rob Saliterman to lead political ad sales. He previously helped lead the politics team at Google and served in the George W. Bush administration.

Snapchat touts nearly 100 million people using the platform daily, a sizable number, but one dwarfed by Facebook’s 1 billion daily users.

And campaigns are limited in who they can target on the platform. Snapchat is almost exclusively used by people under the age of 34, and more than a quarter of users are younger than 18 and ineligible to vote.”

A few Politicians to follow on Twitter:

The Democrats: @TheDemocrats 409K followers

The Republicans@GOP 386K followers

Mississippi Democrats: @msdemocrats 2,980 followers

 Mississippi Republicans: @MSGOP 5,965 followers

Donald Trump: @realDonaldTrump  4.08M followers There is nothing tradition (or at times rational) about how Donald Trump runs his Twitter feed or his campaign. It’s full of insults and boasts — a constant stream of self promotion. But it works in the sense that it gets attention for Donald Trump. And that’s what he wants most of all.

Dr. Ben Carson @RealBenCarson 559K followers. Dr. Ben Carson is a neurosurgeon who speaks softly but is carrying a big stick in the polls. His Twitter Feed is a more traditional mix of RT’s, news about the candidate and other Ben Carson policy statements.

Hillary Clinton @HillaryClinton 4.18M followers. Tweets she actually writes are followed with a “-H.”

Bernie Sanders @SenSanders 641K followers. Tweets he writes end with “-B.” Otherwise it is staffer driven.

President Barack Obama @POTUS 3.96M followers.  This is the account that President Obama actually writes on. He has taken to Social Media recently to promote his global warming initiative and his trip to Alaska. He actually took the pictures that he posted on Instagram.

Jeb Bush @JebBush 228K followers

Governor Phil Bryant @PhilBryantMS 22.8K followers.

Sen. Chris McDaniel @senatormcdaniel  6,229 followers.

Rep. Bennie Thompson @BennieGThompson 4,839 followers.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Writing a thank you note to Dad

Many of you who knew me growing up know my dad, Dave Ramsey. Yes, he’s who the one on the radio is named for (Radio Dave is my first cousin). Dad owned a car garage for many years and gave a lot to our Sprayberry High School community. He was funny, grumpy and well, much like me. I won’t say he was perfect — only one human has been — but he was a perfect dad for me. Because even with his faults, I knew he loved me.

As many of you know, Dad has dementia. I remember when he didn’t know me last November (thankfully the Aricept cleared that up for now) But that was a punch in the stomach.

I know the time is coming. I know I’ll see him and he won’t know me.

The one given I’ve had in my life is that I know my dad loves me. He loves his kids.

I don’t get to see him as much as I’d like because we live seven hours apart. And I pray he does know me when I walk in the door the next time. But even he doesn’t, I will take his love for me and pay it forward to my boys. Because learning to love your children is the greatest gift he gave me. And loving my family will be my thank you note to him.

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