The Meaning of Respect

The bypass had choked off the little Mississippi town of Hollyhock. Tourists traveling to the Florida beaches zoomed by it at a comfortable 65 mph, never giving the dying town a second thought.

Off the main road was the Hollyhock General Store. And on its front porch sat an old man whittling a stick. In his 80’s, he was a relic from another era.  He had fought in the Pacific and would forever be a Marine.  He had seen so much hatred in that war that when he laid down his rifle in 1946, he vowed to never think a violent word again.

But like during the insane charge across the runway during the Battle of Peleliu and the climb up Mt. Suribachi, there are times when you have to put fear aside and stand up for what is right.  And for the next 70 years, he had done just that.

The locals thought he was just the crazy old man who sat on the store’s porch and told funny stories.  Little did they know he was a true-to-life hero who had killed hundreds of men and then changed the lives of a thousand more.  He still fought the war when he slept.  For 70 years, he experienced nightly bonsai charges.  The screams were as fresh as they were all those years ago. He had came home with a chest full of medals and a head full of nightmares.

When he stepped off the train in 1946, he had helped build this little town. He had stood up to racists. He had started the local Lions Club. He had helped make the local school one of the best in the state.  Now like his generation, his town was fading into history.

He took another swig of his RC Cola and looked out at the empty buildings.  Most of the businesses had moved out to the bypass.  He couldn’t exactly blame them — you go where the money is. And then they built the big-box discount retail store out there.  That was like kinking a garden hose. Everything dried up at that point.

He took another sip of his RC, wiped the sweat from his leather-like brow and watched as a car with four young kids pulled up the gas pumps.  He didn’t know these kids — and he knew about everyone’s mama around these parts. They began pumping gas into their Camaro and throwing racial slurs at Mrs. Juanita Jones who was filling up her husband’s Ford truck.

“You boys watch yo’ dam’ mouths.”

His voice cut through the air like a mortar round.  The boys turned their heads and stared at the old man. “You say something ol’ man?” The leader, a kid who as about 6’3″ and 240 lbs. , said with a sneer.

“You heard me son.  Show the lady some respect.”

“She ain’t nothin’ but a ni….”

“Son, don’t you say that word in this town.”  The old man felt a familiar anger boil up to the surface.

The kids laughed.  “This fossil is going to make us be nice.”

The leader of the kids walked up to porch of the store and approached the man.  “I don’t like your attitude ol’ man.” The other kids followed behind him.

“Aw come on Brian , he’s a dinosaur.”

The leader of the boys ignored his friends and walked up to the ol’ man. He then kicked over his RC.

“Son, you really don’t want to mess with me.”

The boys burst into laughter.

The kid reached into a pocket and pulled out a gun. He then put it to the old man’s temple and said, “Now, what do you have to say to me?”

The old man smiled and said, “Son, pull the trigger. I’ve lived a long life and I’ve paid for my sins.  But you — well, you’ll pay for this day for eternity.”

“Wooooooo. I’m scared!”  The leader laughed and turned his attention from the old man for just a second.  It was his mistake.

Seventy years had slowed his reflexes, but not that much. He grabbed his walking stick and knocked the gun out of the kid’s hand. He then crushed the kid’s thick skull and sent him crumpled to the ground. The second kid rushed at the old man, and once again, the old man sent him to the dirt, bleeding and moaning in pain.  The next kid rushed at the old Marine and for a third time, paid for his mistake.  The fourth kid, obviously the smartest of the bunch, ran back out to the car and drove off.

The old man picked up his RC bottle and took the last remaining swig from it. He then walked over and picked up the gun.  “Idiots.  They thought they could do to me what the Empire of Japan’s best couldn’t.”

Mrs. Jones had called the police and Police Chief Frank Johnson arrived just in time to see the old man standing over the crumpled bodies of the thugs.

“We have a cleanup on aisle four,” the old man said without emotion.

The Chief looked at the moaning kids and shook his head, “They didn’t know who they were messing with, did they Granddad?”

Gunnery Sergeant Sam Johnson, USMC, had lived his life standing up for what was right.  And on that day in that dying Mississippi town, he had taught four kids the meaning of respect.

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Hitting the bottom

It was a beautiful late spring day. Birds were chirping and a lawn mower’s engine was purring off in the distance. A small Cessna flew low over the house and a ski boat was pulling a single skier past the giant lakeside home. But the owner of 234 Royal Oaks Lane heard none of it.

His uncanny ability to master the value of money had built the mansion and the pool. His lack of ability to master the value of time had landed him in the bottom of it.

He lay on the bottom, face down, drowning. The lack of oxygen was beginning to shut down his brain.  He was experiencing a near-death experience. And it wasn’t pretty.

There was no peace to be found at the bottom of the pool.

He had grown up in a dogmatic household as a child. There was no gray — only black and white.  That absolute certainty about the universe had led him into the financial industry. His ruthlessness had quickly allowed him to rise to the top.  It would be wrong to say he didn’t care about anything or anyone.  He cared about his bonus. Very much so, actually.  Unlike people, numbers didn’t lie.

As the world went on around him, his life flashed before him.  And it wasn’t pretty. There was no white light. No family members there to greet him. No peace.

He had built his business and was now in the process of tearing it down. He didn’t give a damn about his employees. In fact, he had been on the phone with his board discussing the next round of RIF. (Reduction of Force) when the years of eating poorly caught up to him.  First there was a pain in his chest. Next the phone went into the pool. And he was right after it.

All the money in the world wouldn’t save him today. His wife had told him when she left, “Your company won’t hold your hand when you die.” Today would be the day he’d discover how right she was.

The last bubbles of breath floated to the surface and popped.

The news would mourn the loss of a great business leader.  The people who knew him would shrug their shoulders and move on with their lives.  Being a success relies on more than just the bottom line.  It’s a hard fact he discovered on the bottom of his pool.

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Sunday Free-For-All

Good morning! Hope you’re having a great weekend!

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Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit Blog: 6/02/12

Goal weight: 195 lbs.

Today’s weight: 196 lbs.

It has been six months since my Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit adventure began.  I thought I’d go out and celebrate this morning with a long, long run.

One mile into the run, this is what I saw:

Now THAT’S a way to start a celebration.

Ridgeland has a great set of trails and I pick one up off the Natchez Trace at the Ross Barnett Reservoir Overlook. I’ve taken dozens of photos from there over the years — it’s easily one of the prettiest places in the area.

Here’s what it looks like from a distance:

At this point, I’ve run over a mile. My legs feel very good because I took all of last week off. Why you ask? Well, my wife was away and I don’t like leaving the kids alone when I run (I have visions of the house burning down while I’m gone.) And did I mention the temperature was PERFECT!  It was cool and there was little humidity. My heart rate was 10 to 15 beats per minutes lower than last week because I wasn’t sweating to death.

This morning is the Heatwave Triathlon.  It’s put on by the Ridgeland Parks & Rec. Department and uses the same trail I run on. So I left the house at 5:45 to make sure I beat the runners to the course.  I just saw some of the usual crowd (I love running into people I know while I run. It makes it more fun.) and several folks setting up for the race.  I could hear the announcer getting the swimmers ready for the swim portion.  And I just kept piling on the miles as I headed to my turn around point: The old Craft Center. That was 5.5 miles into the run.

I took a drink, turned around and headed home. When I got to mile seven, something ran across my path.  Since I don’t wear my glasses when I run, I had to get closer to see exactly what it was. It was wild turkey hen.  She ignored me — she knows she is Federally protected, so I was just an annoyance. She trotted into the woods and I trotted on to my house.  It was a bonus.

I got back out on the Trace and headed to the woods where I cut through to my neighborhood.  The triathletes were already on the bike portion of the race and were zooming past me as I ran down the Trace.  At that point, I had burned over 2,000 calories. That’s not a bad start to the day.  And a great way to celebrate six months of being fit again

I came home, popped a couple of ibuprofens and took a shower in celebration.  It was a helluva a run today. The weather was perfect and I ran the farthest I’ve run since the marathon.

It feels darn good being fit again. It really does.

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Saturday Free-For-All

Good morning! Enjoy this nice, cool morning!

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Friday Free-For-All

Good morning! What’s up?

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Daily Links 5/31/12

Thunder is rumbling around the Ramsey house this morning. I’m heading to Tupelo this afternoon to do my show live from the Elvis Festival. I’ll be surrounded by Elvi and will have Paul Thorn on the show.

Here’s a short story I wrote in Elvis’ honor called The Tupelo Traveler.

OK, here’s some news for you — provided by others and linked by me.

NYC is banning super-sized sugary drinks. Great — just what that grouchy bunch up there needs: Something else to make them grumpier.

Did you see the Hatfields and McCoys on the History Channel? (Kevin Costner is missing, though) You weren’t alone. 13.1 million of your closest friends watched the biggest family feud of all time. Good stuff.

Good luck to USM Senior Myverick Garcia who is Miss USA MississippiShe’ll be competing for Miss USA.

Bad news on the economy front (isn’t that all we do is bad news?) Jobless claims up for 4th straight week. Planned layoffs by companies jumped 53% from April to May. As Scooby would say, Ruh Roh.

When scum gets scummier: Syria shells sight of previous massacre.

Hurricane Season starts next week. And we also have the disaster known as the Sandusky trial.  I’m ducking and covering.

Search continues for the missing Copiah woman Linda Reed after a false report about her being found.

MAKE HIS BIRTHDAY —> “Dirty Harry” turns 82 today. Academy Award winning film director & actor Clint Eastwood was born on May 31, 1930.

Day off good for Delta State as they continue on in the DII World Series. Fight on Fighting Okra. Fight on.

When I was a kid, space ships landed on runways: SpaceX capsule to splash down today.

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The Tupelo Traveler

The radar looked like someone had spilled catsup and mustard on it. Blobs of red and yellow covered the route from Memphis to Tupelo. A middle-aged traveling salesman slowly drove his rental car through the pouring rain. A flash of lightning and a loud thunderclap startled him out of his daydream. Rain hitting the windshield looked like he was driving through a carwash.

He hated trips like this. His hands gripped the steering wheel with enough force to bend steel. Another bolt of lightning hit a transformer, sending sparks showering down onto the ground.

OK. That was a sign from above to stop.

He began hoping for a fast-food restaurant or a convenience store. Somewhere to stop and pee and get a cup of coffee. Lightning flashed again, illuminating a dull and drab countryside. The heavy rain had caused the world to be 50 shades of gray. He laughed — no, the rain hadn’t caused the world to look like the famous bestselling sex book. It had just sucked all the color out of the universe. And it made it harder to see while driving.

The ponding water on the roadway caused his front wheels to hydroplane. He felt the car’s traction control kick-in and prevent a sure disaster. Fingers gripped the steering wheel even tighter. “#$%#,” he cussed to himself. This was not fun.

And then he saw him.

A lone figure walked along the side of the lonely Mississippi highway. “Poor fool,” he thought as he slowed the car to prevent accidentally hitting the soaked traveler. And then, against his better judgement, he stopped. Who picked up hitchhikers in this day in age? Sure, this guy could have been Ted Bundy’s apprentice, but years of Sunday School teaching at First Baptist Church in Swampbottom Flats had taught him the importance of being a good Samaritin. He rolled down his passenger window.

“Can I give you a lift?”

The stranger stood there silently in the pouring rain.

“I said, ‘can I give you a lift?'” the driver repeated, this time louder.

The stranger, not lifting his hat that was covering his eyes, nodded. The driver unlocked the passenger side door and the stranger climbed in.

“Where you headed?”

The stranger sat there for a moment and then said, “Tupelo.”

“Well, then, you’re in luck. That’s where I’m headed, too.”

The stranger was an older man, in his mid-to-upper-70’s and good looking. And although the driver couldn’t quite put his finger on it, the man looked familiar.

The driver, craving conversation, began asking the stranger questions. The stranger, craving silence, didn’t not answer them. After 20 miles that seemed like 100, he opened up. “I’m going to where I was born. I make this trip from Memphis once a year.”

The storm had picked up. The radio squawked about a tornado in Marshall County. The driver didn’t doubt it. Never had he driven through a storm like this. Lightning pounded the countryside like an artillery attack.

“What do you do in Memphis?”

“I perform in small clubs occasionally. I sing some but not much. I guess you could say I’m retired.”

The driver looked at the stranger. He was definitely old enough to be retired.

“What do you sing?”

“I love Gospel music. A little Country and Blues, too. Kind of hard to live in Memphis and not sing the Blues. I used to dabble in Rock, too. But that was a long-time ago.”

“Do you have any kids?”

“One.”

“Me, too. I have a son. Don’t speak to him much. I hate that.”

“Family is all you have. Friends come and go. But family — well, they’re with you ’til the end. And sometimes even after.”

The stranger seemed sad. The driver couldn’t help but notice the lines on his face crinkle when he said the last sentence. There was a lot of history on that face.

“They’re having an Elvis Festival up in Tupelo. You going?”

The stranger smiled a slight smile and didn’t say a word. And for the rest of the trip, he sat there in silence.

They stopped in front of Reed’s Store in downtown and the stranger got out of the car. The rain had ceased and a single sunbeam broke through the clouds. Ground fog shrouded much of downtown Tupelo.

And as the driver watched the stranger disappear into the mist, he never knew how famous the Tupelo traveler truly was.

Prologue:

Tupelo, MS — The 2012 Tupelo Elvis Festival Elvis sound-a-like contest was won today by a last minute entrant. The 76-year-old contestant, who only goes by the name, “Aaron,” belted out a rousing version of “Suspicious Minds.” The singer, who refused comment for this story, simply told the judges “Thank you, thank you very much.”

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Thursday Free-For-All

I’m headed to see Elvis today in Tupelo.  What’s up with you?

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Daily Links 5/30/12

OK, where did May go?  Summer is now here (as you can tell by the heat) but there is a bit of good news on that front.  Rain for the next few days followed by sunny and cooler weather this weekend. Life is good.

Congrats to Chris Stratton for being named S.E.C. pitcher of the year.  That’ll make a nice bookend to this.

D-2 World Series UpdateDELTA STATE WINS AGAIN. Go Fighting Okra!

ZOMBIE UPDATEMore on the naked man who chewed the dude’s face off. Or as I like to call it, “The world’s best anti-drug message ever.”   This kids, is you on drugs.

I didn’t know Marina Keegan. Never will. A tragic car crash cut her life way too damn short.  But even though I didn’t know her, she has inspired me to live my life to the fullest.  One person’s life can touch yours in the biggest ways.  Here’s her essay titled, The Opposite of Loneliness. Carpe diem, folks. It’s all we have.

Tragic car wrecks part 2An onlooker recounts wreck horror. You know — the one on Hwy. 80 where the good Samaritan was killed. Bless Kyeuna Vance and may her family find peace.

I’ll be in Tupelo tomorrow doing my show live from the Elvis Festival. Paul Thorn will be my 4 p.m. guest.

BREAK OUT THE CHEESY GRITS: Mitt has enough delegates for nomination.  But Trump (once again) steals the spotlight.

R.I.P. to a master. Doc Watson dead at 89 after a fall. Here’s Deep River Blues.

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