The Thriver

“Thank you.”

Fred Faircloth shook his head in disbelief. His doctor had just given him a dire diagnosis and he thanked him.  “Idiot,” he muttered to himself. “What a freakin’ idiot.”

Forty-five years old, father of two and married.  He had everything in the world to lose and here he was thanking the man who told him that it was all in jeopardy.

What else would you expect on a Monday?

So he had heard the three words that change your life forever — or if the doctor was right, take it.  “You have cancer.” They had so easily rolled off the doc’s tongue like mercury.  And they hit him like a bowling ball hits pins.

It’s a natural reaction to throw a pity party when served bad news. In fact, it would have been completely forgivable if Fred had thrown a massive pity party, invited friends and had snacks. Cancer diagnoses are that brutal. But he didn’t.  He looked at the doctor again and said, “I am going to beat this.”

The doctor, a poor poker player, had a look of disbelief in his eyes.  “The odds are not particularly in your favor.  But we’ll do what we can.”

“No, doc. We will do what we have to do to succeed.  I’m not ready to check out yet.  I have too much to live for.”

Time had become a precious commodity. He thought of Tim McGraw’s song “Live like you are dying.” So many people may have thought it was a catchy tune. For Fred, it had now become his personal anthem.  And as a sign of his gratefulness, he vowed to never miss a sunrise again.

His wife squeeze his hand.  Her fear was evident and frankly, he didn’t blame her.  They were a team and now the team was threatened.  He smiled at her and said, “We’ll find the right time to tell the kids. Right now, they need us to be outwardly strong.”  A single tear ran down her cheek.

The tumors growing inside him would end up changing everything about him.  The glass became half full.  The sky was now partly sunny.  He needed a quiver of arrows to attack this beast. Optimism was one of his most potent weapon. He thought about H.O.P.E. He would use his humor. He’d use this as an opportunity to serve. He’d take care of his physical well-being. And he’s educate himself about his disease.

Fred Faircloth wasn’t going to be just a cancer survivor. He’d become a cancer thriver.

“I want to start my treatment immediately. Hit me with all you have. Nuke me. Let’s kill some tumors.”

The doctor looked Fred into the eye. He’d see hundreds of patients react to this news and could tell who was going to fold and who had a chance to make it.  If anyone could survive, this man could.

Cancer is brutal and steals the lives of the good and the bad, the fighters and the quitters.  But Fred Faircloth wasn’t just fighting cancer. He was living for something.  He was living for his children. He was living for his community. And he was living for his wife.  “God, you have the final call of when I go. But I’m going to make the most of every second before you do.”

Fred Faircloth was about to fight for his life by living it.  The cancer never knew what hit it.

Fred Faircloth, cancer survivor, died in his sleep at the age of 95. He was surrounded by his children, his grandchildren and a couple of great grandchildren.  He had not only beaten cancer, but had gone on to help other cancer patients beat the disease, too. And when he took his last breath, he felt someone squeeze his hand. As he looked up he saw his wife, whom had passed away ten years ago. She had come to take the Cancer thriver on home.

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Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit Blog: 5/21/12

Goal Weight: 195 lbs.

There was a slight chill in the air this morning. It was before 5 a.m. and the eastern sky was slightly illuminated. Maybe it was cool air from the storms up to the north. Maybe it was just the hour of the day. Whatever was causing it, the cooler air was appreciated. Because of the weather, my heart rate was lower most of my 5.11-mile run this morning. I burned over 850 calories and felt good most of the way.  A police cruiser was sitting in the empty part of a neighborhood I run in. I suppose he was there to guard against any nefarious activities.  My running probably falls into that category but he didn’t stop me.  I waved and continued on.  I finished up strong with some slight pain in my right knee. Remind me to stretch better in the future. Thanks.  But all and all, it was a great run. One of my recent favorites.

My 36-inch jeans are now loose. My XL shirts swallow me whole.  I feel better and have more energy.  My stamina is up.  My depression and anxiety are down.  I see all these wonder pills out there, but then hear the side effects and nearly run away.  Exercise has great side effects. Lower heart rate, stronger heart, less fat, less depression, less anxiety, stronger lungs — and that’s just a start.  I’ll take that.

The last month has been exhausting. I need to sit down and write out some new goals.  Goals are what keeps you going. They keep you focused. And in my case, they keep me from getting bored and quitting.  So I say this: Give me the wisdom to know what goals to set and the strength to reach them.  I’ll do the rest.

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Monday Free-For-All

Good morning! Hope you have a great week.

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Marshall’s Mississippi

Thanks to my radio show, I now travel around the state frequently. And when I travel, I always carry my iPhone.  Here’s a photo slideshow of one of the most interesting states in the Union.

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Sunday Free-For-All

Good morning! Hope  you have a great day!

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Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit Blog: 5/19/12

Goal Weight: 195 lbs.

Today’s Weight: 197.6 lbs.

For the first time since 2010, I’m under 200 lbs.  I’m a couple of pounds away from my goal.  I look thinner than I have in years. And since January 1st, I’ve lost 50 lbs.  And this morning, I got to see this:

I ran nine miles along the Natchez Trace, Ross Barnett Reservoir and along the Ridgeland Multipurpose Trail.  I started at 5:45 a.m. and when I popped out of the woods and picked up the Natchez Trace, I was blessed to see the sun come up over the water.

It looked like the Devil’s eye — a sign that it was going to be a hot day.  But it was cool at the time.  And most of the trail was still in the shade.

By the time I got home an hour and a half later, I had run nine miles and burned 1,452 calories.

Not a bad day.  All and all, my running partner (my shadow) and I had a great run.

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Saturday Free-For-All

I’m about to emcee the Dragon Boat Regatta at the Ross Barnett Reservoir. It’s fun to watch — come on down!

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Friday Free-For-All

Good morning! TGIF

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Thursday Free-For-All

Heading to Knoxville, Tennessee to honor a friend. What’s up with you?

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Daily Links 5/16/12

Once again, happy birthday to another one of my sons. We didn’t plan to have birthdays clumped together. Life happens.  But he’s a great boy and it’s worth noting his big day.

Today’s cartoon, if you are so interested in seeing it.

Follow me on Twitter at twitter.com/marshallramsey or follow my Facebook fan page here.

Yesterday’s cartoon caused a healthy debate. For the most part, it was respectful and positive. A couple of folks decided that they could read my soul by my cartoon. One person told me to “get over it.” I didn’t lose much sleep over either comment. There were some shallow comments, too. But most folks realize they live in a good place with flaws. That we need to continue to make this a better place. But that cheap shots weren’t going to solve our state’s problems. Only hard work and caring will. Here’s more on it.

Any award for Mac McAnally is deserved. He’s one of my writing heroes.  The Mississippi Arts and Entertainment Center will honor country singer Moe Bandy and Mac with stars on the Walk of Fame.

Looking for the MHSSA State Championship Baseball Schedule?  Here you go.

Greece Fire! There is a run on the banks there and now talk of leaving the Euro.

Joe Biden goes to Ohio. Gaffe in 3….2…..1…….

CNN’s take on  fake cop/shooter threatening the highways in North Mississippi.

Today’s Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit Blog – QUIT MAKING EXCUSES!

Boot-shaped chicken nugget up for auction. Made from the chicken’s foot, I’m sure.

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