Father’s Day

The severe storm’s strobe lightning turned night into day.  Loud thunder rocked the house, rattling the windows and china– but the boy continued to snore lightly.  On the cusp of being a teenager, the young man’s body was growing right before his weary father’s eyes.  It seemed like every night when the dad got home from work, the kid had grown another inch.  Time was rapidly accelerating.  The father sat in his son’s room, unsuccessfully trying to grab time and hold it in place.

It was like trying to stop a speeding train.

The father couldn’t sleep. The violent storm outside had woken him up. The storms of life had kept him awake.  He walked from the master bedroom to where his son’s room. He sat on the floor next to a sea of video game cartridges and old toys.  The kid was sleeping soundly through the storm. The boy was at peace.  The father wished it could be that way all the time. But being a preteen wasn’t easy.  It was something the father knew all to well.

It was 3:02 a.m.  The sunrise was still three hours away. And the storm was intensifying.

The one thing every newborn should have stapled to his or her leg is an instruction manual. This boy was the child the father had made all his mistakes on. And he had made some whoppers. But now, though, he knew couldn’t fail him.  There was little margin for error. The teenage years are too important. Too influential. Like drying concrete, this was the time when his self-image would set for life.  The father knew it all too well.  But the only guide he had was his own teenage years. And that was a flawed manual at best. He prayed a lot about this.

Another clap of thunder shook the house.  Lightning had hit a tree down the street, causing a small fire before the heavy rain doused it. The electricity flickered, but did not go out.

The father watched as his son’s chest rose and fell. He remembered the stories he used to make up for his son when he was little.  The ones that he told him while sitting in this very spot.  About the little boy and his dog traveling across the great mythical land of Tejas. How they fought dragons and took on bandits.  The father would weave moral stories into the tales, little life lessons that he hoped would take his son through life.  He wished he had written them down.  He hoped that his son had listened.

Lightning struck nearby again, causing the son to turn over and mumble something incoherently under his breath. The father thought that he was going to have to slip out of the room — but the boy soon fell back into a deep sleep.   The father relaxed and continued to think about his boy’s journey to manhood and his role as a father.

The rain pelting the window sounded like water hitting a car in a carwash.  The pines in the backyard danced a hypnotic dance as the lightning continued to illuminate the inky sky. But the thunder’s bark was more distant now. The storm was beginning to move on.

And then it occurred to him. As the father watched his beloved son, he realized that he didn’t need to give him advice. He just needed to give him his undivided attention. The boy needed his father’s time. The epiphany illuminated the father’s heart like the lightning had the night.

Standing up, the father’s knees cracked.  Another sign that time was moving too quickly. And as he began to walk gingerly out the door, he heard his son’s voice call out, “Dad, whatcha doin’ in here?”

“Just checkin’ on you,” the dad said quietly.

“Oh, OK.  And Dad…”

“What?”

“Happy Father’s Day.”

The father looked at his son’s sleepy face and said the only thing he could,”No, thank you. I wouldn’t be one without you.”

And with that, the storm was over.

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Tuesday Free-For-All

Wow. That was a heavy thunderstorm last night. Banjo couldn’t be calmed and the chimney leaked.  So I “slept” in and skipped my run.  I’ll run tonight. Promise.

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Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit Blog: 6/4/12

Goal Weight: 195 lbs.

Sunrise during this morning's run.

Yesterday was a day of rest — technically.  I’m not sure you really ever rest when you have three kids. But I didn’t run.  And for good reason. My legs were REALLY tired after the 11-mile run on Saturday.  I joked that when I need to know my age, I don’t have to look at my birth certificate. I can just go run 11 miles.  I felt very 44 yesterday.

I did do 50 pushups and sit-ups.  I also did three sets of “planks” for thirty seconds each. And I did a minute of “wall sits.”  Planks are a core workout.  Wall sits work on the front of your legs.  We also went down to the pool yesterday and it felt good to get in the water and thrash around a little bit.

Of course, I picked up some kind of bug and have a sore throat today.  I have a speech Thursday, so I need to get well quickly.

Woke up at 4:30 this morning and ran 5.26 miles and burned 833 calories.  My legs were sore the first mile, but loosened up and I had a pretty strong run for the rest of it. The setting moon was spectacular and I saw a really nice sunrise as I finished up my run.  It was very humid and I think I sweated off five pounds today.  Ugh.

My two-cents on Mayor Bloomberg’s ban on large sugary drinks in New York: I mourn the death of personal responsibility. Yes, I know I am sitting in the middle of the fattest state in the nation while saying that, but it’s sad when a law has to passed to try to keep you from drinking yourself into diabetes and obesity.  (Of course, you can always buy two smaller drinks, but I digress).

And trust me, I’m not lecturing anyone about drinking too much soda.  If Coca-Cola pulled a tanker truck up to me right now with a big straw, I’d drink Coke until I exploded. I am completely addicted to it.  Last year, I drank so many Cokes (and was inactive) that I gained 43 lbs. I used them as a crutch. A source of cheap energy.  Yes, Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit Blog readers, I am an addict. And I’ll tell the world that right here and now.

But today, Mayor Bloomberg’s decision doesn’t affect me. Not because I don’t live in New York City — even if I visited there, it still wouldn’t affect me. Why?  I haven’t had a sugary drink in six months.

I knew they were contributing to my weight problem. So I quit. Maybe someday I’ll enjoy a delicious glass of Coke again. But probably not.  I’ve moved on.   I really didn’t need a politician telling me to improve my health. My fat butt not fitting into my clothes told me loud and clear.

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Monday Free-For-All

Good morning! Let’s have a great week.

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The Meaning of Respect

The bypass had choked off the little Mississippi town of Hollyhock. Tourists traveling to the Florida beaches zoomed by it at a comfortable 65 mph, never giving the dying town a second thought.

Off the main road was the Hollyhock General Store. And on its front porch sat an old man whittling a stick. In his 80’s, he was a relic from another era.  He had fought in the Pacific and would forever be a Marine.  He had seen so much hatred in that war that when he laid down his rifle in 1946, he vowed to never think a violent word again.

But like during the insane charge across the runway during the Battle of Peleliu and the climb up Mt. Suribachi, there are times when you have to put fear aside and stand up for what is right.  And for the next 70 years, he had done just that.

The locals thought he was just the crazy old man who sat on the store’s porch and told funny stories.  Little did they know he was a true-to-life hero who had killed hundreds of men and then changed the lives of a thousand more.  He still fought the war when he slept.  For 70 years, he experienced nightly bonsai charges.  The screams were as fresh as they were all those years ago. He had came home with a chest full of medals and a head full of nightmares.

When he stepped off the train in 1946, he had helped build this little town. He had stood up to racists. He had started the local Lions Club. He had helped make the local school one of the best in the state.  Now like his generation, his town was fading into history.

He took another swig of his RC Cola and looked out at the empty buildings.  Most of the businesses had moved out to the bypass.  He couldn’t exactly blame them — you go where the money is. And then they built the big-box discount retail store out there.  That was like kinking a garden hose. Everything dried up at that point.

He took another sip of his RC, wiped the sweat from his leather-like brow and watched as a car with four young kids pulled up the gas pumps.  He didn’t know these kids — and he knew about everyone’s mama around these parts. They began pumping gas into their Camaro and throwing racial slurs at Mrs. Juanita Jones who was filling up her husband’s Ford truck.

“You boys watch yo’ dam’ mouths.”

His voice cut through the air like a mortar round.  The boys turned their heads and stared at the old man. “You say something ol’ man?” The leader, a kid who as about 6’3″ and 240 lbs. , said with a sneer.

“You heard me son.  Show the lady some respect.”

“She ain’t nothin’ but a ni….”

“Son, don’t you say that word in this town.”  The old man felt a familiar anger boil up to the surface.

The kids laughed.  “This fossil is going to make us be nice.”

The leader of the kids walked up to porch of the store and approached the man.  “I don’t like your attitude ol’ man.” The other kids followed behind him.

“Aw come on Brian , he’s a dinosaur.”

The leader of the boys ignored his friends and walked up to the ol’ man. He then kicked over his RC.

“Son, you really don’t want to mess with me.”

The boys burst into laughter.

The kid reached into a pocket and pulled out a gun. He then put it to the old man’s temple and said, “Now, what do you have to say to me?”

The old man smiled and said, “Son, pull the trigger. I’ve lived a long life and I’ve paid for my sins.  But you — well, you’ll pay for this day for eternity.”

“Wooooooo. I’m scared!”  The leader laughed and turned his attention from the old man for just a second.  It was his mistake.

Seventy years had slowed his reflexes, but not that much. He grabbed his walking stick and knocked the gun out of the kid’s hand. He then crushed the kid’s thick skull and sent him crumpled to the ground. The second kid rushed at the old man, and once again, the old man sent him to the dirt, bleeding and moaning in pain.  The next kid rushed at the old Marine and for a third time, paid for his mistake.  The fourth kid, obviously the smartest of the bunch, ran back out to the car and drove off.

The old man picked up his RC bottle and took the last remaining swig from it. He then walked over and picked up the gun.  “Idiots.  They thought they could do to me what the Empire of Japan’s best couldn’t.”

Mrs. Jones had called the police and Police Chief Frank Johnson arrived just in time to see the old man standing over the crumpled bodies of the thugs.

“We have a cleanup on aisle four,” the old man said without emotion.

The Chief looked at the moaning kids and shook his head, “They didn’t know who they were messing with, did they Granddad?”

Gunnery Sergeant Sam Johnson, USMC, had lived his life standing up for what was right.  And on that day in that dying Mississippi town, he had taught four kids the meaning of respect.

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Hitting the bottom

It was a beautiful late spring day. Birds were chirping and a lawn mower’s engine was purring off in the distance. A small Cessna flew low over the house and a ski boat was pulling a single skier past the giant lakeside home. But the owner of 234 Royal Oaks Lane heard none of it.

His uncanny ability to master the value of money had built the mansion and the pool. His lack of ability to master the value of time had landed him in the bottom of it.

He lay on the bottom, face down, drowning. The lack of oxygen was beginning to shut down his brain.  He was experiencing a near-death experience. And it wasn’t pretty.

There was no peace to be found at the bottom of the pool.

He had grown up in a dogmatic household as a child. There was no gray — only black and white.  That absolute certainty about the universe had led him into the financial industry. His ruthlessness had quickly allowed him to rise to the top.  It would be wrong to say he didn’t care about anything or anyone.  He cared about his bonus. Very much so, actually.  Unlike people, numbers didn’t lie.

As the world went on around him, his life flashed before him.  And it wasn’t pretty. There was no white light. No family members there to greet him. No peace.

He had built his business and was now in the process of tearing it down. He didn’t give a damn about his employees. In fact, he had been on the phone with his board discussing the next round of RIF. (Reduction of Force) when the years of eating poorly caught up to him.  First there was a pain in his chest. Next the phone went into the pool. And he was right after it.

All the money in the world wouldn’t save him today. His wife had told him when she left, “Your company won’t hold your hand when you die.” Today would be the day he’d discover how right she was.

The last bubbles of breath floated to the surface and popped.

The news would mourn the loss of a great business leader.  The people who knew him would shrug their shoulders and move on with their lives.  Being a success relies on more than just the bottom line.  It’s a hard fact he discovered on the bottom of his pool.

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Sunday Free-For-All

Good morning! Hope you’re having a great weekend!

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Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit Blog: 6/02/12

Goal weight: 195 lbs.

Today’s weight: 196 lbs.

It has been six months since my Fit-to-Fat-to-Fit adventure began.  I thought I’d go out and celebrate this morning with a long, long run.

One mile into the run, this is what I saw:

Now THAT’S a way to start a celebration.

Ridgeland has a great set of trails and I pick one up off the Natchez Trace at the Ross Barnett Reservoir Overlook. I’ve taken dozens of photos from there over the years — it’s easily one of the prettiest places in the area.

Here’s what it looks like from a distance:

At this point, I’ve run over a mile. My legs feel very good because I took all of last week off. Why you ask? Well, my wife was away and I don’t like leaving the kids alone when I run (I have visions of the house burning down while I’m gone.) And did I mention the temperature was PERFECT!  It was cool and there was little humidity. My heart rate was 10 to 15 beats per minutes lower than last week because I wasn’t sweating to death.

This morning is the Heatwave Triathlon.  It’s put on by the Ridgeland Parks & Rec. Department and uses the same trail I run on. So I left the house at 5:45 to make sure I beat the runners to the course.  I just saw some of the usual crowd (I love running into people I know while I run. It makes it more fun.) and several folks setting up for the race.  I could hear the announcer getting the swimmers ready for the swim portion.  And I just kept piling on the miles as I headed to my turn around point: The old Craft Center. That was 5.5 miles into the run.

I took a drink, turned around and headed home. When I got to mile seven, something ran across my path.  Since I don’t wear my glasses when I run, I had to get closer to see exactly what it was. It was wild turkey hen.  She ignored me — she knows she is Federally protected, so I was just an annoyance. She trotted into the woods and I trotted on to my house.  It was a bonus.

I got back out on the Trace and headed to the woods where I cut through to my neighborhood.  The triathletes were already on the bike portion of the race and were zooming past me as I ran down the Trace.  At that point, I had burned over 2,000 calories. That’s not a bad start to the day.  And a great way to celebrate six months of being fit again

I came home, popped a couple of ibuprofens and took a shower in celebration.  It was a helluva a run today. The weather was perfect and I ran the farthest I’ve run since the marathon.

It feels darn good being fit again. It really does.

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Saturday Free-For-All

Good morning! Enjoy this nice, cool morning!

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Friday Free-For-All

Good morning! What’s up?

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