The Ring

The Gulf was quiet today.  Gray. Calm. Like a sleeping pit bull dreaming of his next attack.

The bearded, scarred bartender cleaned the glass, looked around his shop and took a deep breath. The smell of new wood told the story of his life.  His bar, like his life, had been rebuilt after the killer hurricane five years ago.  He put the glass carefully down.  His mind flashed back to the debris.

That happened less and less but was still unsettling when it did. PTSD is what the doctor called it.  A nightmare was the term he used.  He looked at the pictures on the wall.  Many of them were wrinkled and watermarked.  Salvaged from the debris.  Like so many of the memories of his life.

“Can I have a beer, old timer?” said the college kid with the tan.  The kid had better use more sunscreen or he’d end up with a few melanoma scars like old man had.

“Sure,” the bartender said. The kid handed him a debit card (probably his dad’s) and the bartender rang the sale.  The bartender checked the kid’s ID and handed him the beer. One more sale. A few more bucks to repay the bank.

The hurricane came in like a rabid beast.  Many had not evacuated. “We survived Camille,” they said.  Thirty six years later, Hurricane Camille killed her last victims.  One of those victims had been his wife.  She was on his mantle in an urn now.  Right there with his heart.  She was the love of his life.

Every morning, the bartender stared at the killer who had taken so much from him. He stared it in the eye. But he had found peace.

A team of college kids on a mission trip had helped him clean the debris off his home’s lot that cold, December day. A young girl from a Catholic church in Allentown, Pennsylvania had found it — His wife’s wedding ring.  One of the other kids thought the search for the ring had been stupid.  But little did she know they had just done the most Christian thing they’d ever do into their lives: They had helped the bartender heal. They had helped him bring closure to his worst nightmare.  His wife had taken the ring off to do the dishes right before the storm hit. The dishes were found a 1/4 mile away. His wife’s body in a tree nearby.

“Nice ring,” the kid said. The bartender startled back to consciousness.  He pointed to the ring hanging on the chain around his neck.

“Thank you.  It is my reminder that I must rebuild and go on. How precious and fragile life really is”

The kid walked away from him, not understanding what the old man meant.  But that was OK. You had to have survived Katrina to understand it.  Life on the Gulf Coast wasn’t for the timid.  Most things worth living aren’t.

He picked up another glass to wash, stared at the Gulf and gripped the ring one more time. He knew he’d soon see his precious wife again.

He smiled. The clouds parted and the Gulf turned from gray to blue.

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Sunday Free-For-All

Good morning! Have a glorious Sunday.

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My 10th birthday

Tomorrow morning, the alarm clock will go off. I’ll rub my eyes and probably hit the snooze. Banjo the dog will snore and I’ll lie there, looking at my alarm clock. I’ll stumble out onto the back porch, scratching my head and try to sneak a peek at the sunrise. It will be a normal day. It will be my 10th birthday.

There won’t be a birthday cake. No party hats.  No songs.  I’m not sure anyone else in the house will even notice. I’ll just go through my day like a normal Sunday.  At 5:30 p.m., I’ll stop what I am doing and quietly say a little prayer.  A prayer to thank the Lord for ten years of life.  Life since I got the call. The call from my doctor on April 17, 2001 diagnosing me with malignant melanoma.

I’m blessed to be here.  And I hope that I’ve used that blessing well.  I know somedays I haven’t.  There has been too much waste. Fear. Sloth.  Anger. Depression and anxiety. I need to work on that.  But don’t get me wrong. I’m grateful. Very grateful for each of the  315,569,260 seconds of it.

Then I’ll hug my three boys and my wife.  I’ll seize my gift (time) and make the most of it. And then I look forward to another trip around the sun.

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Saturday Free-For -All

Good morning. Hope you made it throughout yesterday ok.

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Friday Free-For-All

Good morning! Rough weather today. Stay tuned.

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Thursday Free-For-All

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The Storm

As lightning bounced over the tops of the clouds on the horizon, a battered, rust-

coveredtruck flew down Highway 49 E. Off in the distance, a lone dog howled as the bugs backed him up with a zillion part harmony.  It was summer.  And it was miserable. The Delta evening was like living under a tongue.  Hot. And wet.

Sweat rolled down his back.  He wore clothes only because of modesty. Otherwise, they’d be back home in the drawer.  The little old ladies at the Delta Flats Baptist Church would have not approved. No, they would have died from shock.  No one got nekkid at the Delta Flats Baptist Church. So no nekkid tonight.

Not that anyone would have noticed.  He was on the radio after all. Not exactly a visual medium.  The engine of his ’69 Chevrolet pickup sputtered to a stop as he parked in front of the studio.  (no, he did not drive his Chevy to the levee). Lightning flickered again.  Storms were thrashing the Mississippi River. An outflow boundary blew the first breeze of the summer across his face.  At least the mosquitoes were blown to Alabama now.

He flicked on the lights in his studio. He liked to say “his” although it was really the bank’s. Let’s just say that Dave Ramsey wouldn’t approve. He was in debt up to his eyebrows.

He was alone tonight.  His producer had called in sick so he was juggling the board and the mic.  Tonight’s show would not be pretty.

The wind blew the screen door open against the brick of the building. WHAM!  He jumped.  The storms were coming closer. He could hear the thunder now.  The bugs had decided to call it a night.

SHOWTIME.  The disclaimers played followed closely by the theme music.  He cleared throat, drank one last gulp of coffee and got ready to start the show.

The storm boiled over, spilling out over the flat Delta landscape. Thunder crashed, drowning out his own voice.  The National Weather Service out of Jackson had called a Severe Thunderstorm Warning for his county.  He passed it along to his listeners.  All three of them.

The door slammed open again thanks to the storm’s angry fit. If it had been March, he’d have headed for the tornado safe room.  Yup, there’s nothing more comforting than being connected to watts and watts of electrical equipment in a severe thunderstorm.  Hail began to hit the metal roof.

The door flew open again.  But this time it did not slam back shut.

“Hello?” he called out.  His call was answered with footsteps.  A shadowy man entered the doorway.  “Do you have room for a guest?”

He should have been afraid. He wasn’t. “Sure.  Take a seat by the empty mic.  What’s your name? Would you like a glass of water?”

The man nodded and limped over to the chair and planted himself behind the microphone and smiled. BLAM.  A clap of thunder drowned out his answer.

The radio host continued on with his show.  Lightning struck waaay  too close.

“What do you do for a living,” the host said during the first break.

“I’m a fisherman,” the man smiled.

The host had had the year from Hades.  His family was gone. His sanity was on the brink. And his heart was hard.  Loss had drowned most of his hope — the bottle finished off what was left.  His soul was as crumpled as the two cars in the Delta junkyard.  Each night had been a personal journey into an emotional abyss.  The old man gazed at him.  The storm continued to howl.

The lights flickered.  The lightning left a shadow burned on the wall.  “Learn to laugh at the things that scare you.  Laugh at the things that drive you crazy.”  Another flash of lightning revealed a face that seemed like it was nearly 2,000 years old.  “Love again. Let your pain go.”

The host squirmed.  How did this stranger know of his pain?  “What?”

“Let your pain go.  Learn to forgive.”

Forgive? Who was he kidding? But then the host thought about the pain he had been through.  He realized his own anger was holding him prisoner.  Anger at the man who had taken everything from him.  The man who stumbled out of the car that had killed his family. The man holding the bottle of liquor. Speaking of drinking, his resentment was like swallowing acid to punish another.

He looked into the old man’s eyes and took a leap of faith.

He let it go, laughed uncontrollably and then began to weep.

The old man waved his hand in the air.  The storm mysteriously calmed.  “I can go now.  The worst is over.”

The man placed his hand on the radio host’s shoulder.  Warmth flowed from his touch.   “Remember, laugh, love and forgive.”

As the door shut, the man looked down at the glass of water he had given the stranger, he noticed it had changed color. He picked it up and sniffed it.

It was wine.

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Cut the fat

Howard Ballou called me out on WLBT last night. It’s time to cut the fat.

Well, to be honest, I signed up for this myself. I saw on Facebook yesterday where he was doing a series on losing weight in Mississippi.  And earlier that morning, I had decided to do something about my ever-increasing waistline.  A public challenge is exactly what I need.  I dropped Howard a note.

Flashback to October 31, 2010. I ran the Marine Corps Marathon and was in the best shape of my life. I had trained for several months, which included trips to the gym three times a week. My body was a machine and I was truly alive. I had energy to spare.

The next week the wheels came off.  The Clarion-Ledger cut me to part-time, completely altering my schedule. I turned to food to give me the emotional lift I needed as I tried to heal from the physical beating my body had taken during the marathon.  And I also turned to sweets to bring me out of the dumps from being demoted at work.  I stopped running.  I skipped the gym. And then when I did run a week later, I broke my toe.  It was off to the fat races from that point.

I took on a second job at SuperTalk FM (a blessing) and now work 12 to 15 hours a day.  Fatigue set in and I chose food to give me energy. The wrong foods.  I started eating on the fly and eating nothing but fast food.  The pounds kept piling on.  I became more fatigued.  I propped myself up with sugar and Diet Mountain Dew.

Today I weigh 222 lbs, up 22 from the marathon. My clothes don’t fit. I have reflux. And I have no energy.  I feel like crap.

Howard Ballou is the deep-voiced muse to inspire me to start making better choices.  I’m going to make my efforts very public.  I’ll have Howard on my radio show. And he called me out on TV.  I’ll keep you up-to-date on my progress. And let you know how I’m doing it.  My goal is 25 pounds. I could easily lose 40 and be happy.

My plan:

  1. Start running again.  Slowly, of course. I’m running the Peachtree 10K Road Race on July 4. That’s my first goal.
  2. I’m switching to Green Tea instead of diet drinks.
  3. Start packing my own lunch and taking 20 minutes to sit down and enjoy my lunch. Pack small, healthy snacks to eat every two hours so my blood sugar doesn’t crash, making me want sweets.
  4. I’m cutting my portions.
  5. I’m not eating after 8 p.m.
  6. I’m drinking more water.

I’ll sit down and make out a more thorough chart of what I’m going to do, but this is a start.  I would imagine if I can get back down to 190 or so, I’ll have much more energy to deal with my hectic life.  And if I get that thin, Howard won’t be calling me out on TV any more!

P.S. Howard has put his money (and not food) where his mouth is. He has lost several pounds already and looks great.

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Wednesday Free-For-All

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Tuesday Free-For-All

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